The Impact Of The Greatness Movement

I received this e-mail from a Client/Greatness Movement member today. This pretty well sums up the power of the Movement and how we can change our own lives and society!

 I just want to share how absolutely and incredibly PROUD of myself I am, and how aware I am now, and HOW MUCH I LEARNED!!!

 Like what a GIFT Matt was! I mean it feels like Christmas. With everything I have learned from you about how all of this works, I got to understand who I go after and why I go after guys like him, how I get sucked in, and just think WOW! I never have to feel that way again! (Unless I get bored again haha). Now that I have these tools I know that I really can trust how right I was from the beginning, and how I chose to ignore it!

 Cutting off Mr. Charming was probably the biggest withdrawal from anything I’ve ever felt in my life. Okay, that’s probably an exaggeration but it felt worse than the first time I quit alcohol, worse than pills. It was intense! I was addicted to him and the ‘love’ he was showing me. Probably because I can now be so present and survive it. I have the tools. I was able to feel everything and move through it.

And for the first time in my life, I did it WITHOUT anger because I now know that is extremely manipulative and self-victimizing. I did it out of LOVE for myself! I did it because I know that I can’t go down that path anymore. I didn’t try to manipulate him, I didn’t try to beg or plead or do whatever I would normally do or send an intensity bomb to keep it going and keep me from the truth/reality of the relationship dynamic. I know the way I was taught, I mean how everyone was taught is wrong, but it took until now to really see how wrong it really is. I didn’t point out his flaws or accuse him of anything. I just said it was great meeting you, I’m not going to keep your number. He said thank you, you’re a good person and he’s grateful to have met me,  and then I blocked him on every social media platform I could think of. Even LinkedIn haha. He was being nice to manipulate me but I could see and feel his hidden anger. I have to save his number in my phone as something to keep it blocked but I saved it as Forgiveness. Forgiveness for him, and forgiveness FOR MYSELF!

 He was like this mirror to show me my childhood and my parents in a way I’ve never been able to see it before. I mean the lack of intimacy, the anger, the chaos, the manipulation, the lying, the money, all of it just laid out in front of me like a red carpet. It’s almost magical. It's magical how I CAN SEE IT NOW! It all makes sense now!

And thinking about things, even when he would order food and he would ask me what I wanted and I would cater it in my mind to what he wanted, dropped all my needs and wants, just like my mom does for my dad every single day!

And him asking me to find his car keys, telling me how his mom always has to find things for him. My mom does this for my dad EVERY DAY! Little things add up!

Even when I would park my car he would say “let me see those parking skills” just like my Dad always criticizes my mom!

Sure it was GREAT to go on lots of fancy dinners, but shit Kenny, I could take myself on those and you know that! And was it REALLY great?! He wouldn’t shut up the entire time!! I barely could talk, just like going to dinners with my DAD! I had to be drunk to survive it! Of course, I would pick him and be attracted to him but now that I know all of this I don't have to anymore!

I think back and I’m like HOLY S*** I’m the same girl that couldn’t even clean my house! Now I just clean it without even thinking, because… I actually WANT it to be clean!! What a concept! My self-care is through the roof and now I can choose to not fall back into the same patterns and give myself away! What a beautiful gift! :)

Had to share!  

I’m killing it!!