Imagine if We all learned to "Crack Ourselves Up" First...

This morning I awoke with a vision of myself tying a pretty red ribbon around a gift box. As I reached up and placed it gently upon the shelf with a smile upon my face. A melancholy act of letting go, completion.

The simple act reminded me of packing up after Christmas. All the happy joyous festive moments, put up for a year, yet this time I know it will be more than a year. There are fewer items in this box this time, I choose to hold on to these select items as part of a happy chapter in my life. 

So many times we all seem to hold on to the past in one shape or form. Hoping, wishing, those moments will be here present , in front of us. As if they might actually appear in front of us once more in all their glory. Those times when a flood of happiness warmed the soul, and so seemed to enhance the space .

After a recent parting of ways with my partner, I allowed myself to wallow in my sadness for a time. During a conversation with my 23 year old she was sharing with me about a guy she'd met. She'd texted me, you know mom, "I'm okay if he doesn't like me, I create my own happiness and I crack myself up!!" I smiled, that knowing smile.  I do this for a living so I interjected ... 'We create our own happiness and others just enhance the experience'. Without skipping a beat, her response had me stopped me right in my tracks... "if you believed that mom, you wouldn't be acting miserable "... In that instant of vulnerability, something within shifted and reminded me of who I am. Even though I know this, it seems to me we aren't here to do life alone when we forget what our commitments to ourself are. 

Suffering is optional! A choice.  In a moment, I choose to stepped right out and have been back in life since. I no longer need to be feeling sorry for myself, for what I did or hadn't done. Second guessing myself, which kept me attached to the past. Now I view those beautiful moments in time as a gift. 

Like most chapters in our life, they come to us for a reason or season to learn and expand. They often appear to be 'yanked' away when we forget that it is ourselves that create our own happiness. We aren't dependent upon another to create our happiness for us. 

The past is called History for a reason, in this case it was Her-story, My -Story, the story I told myself which had me attached. The present or gift is  present for a reason. It's all we have here and now. Life's to short not to be in the NOW, in the moment , present and alive. I choose in an instant.

I am grateful for all  my past experiences and those I've yet to receive. My arms are open to receiving more of what life has to offer and I am grateful. I'm particularly proud and grateful I have a pretty astute daughter! She's learned well!

Karen Rudolf, TranquilSoULutions, Changing Thoughts. Changing Lives. 

As a Catalyst for positive change, I guide my clients through a journey of self discovery, personal freedom, towards happiness. This results in living a more fulfilled more passionate, higher performance life. Since Love comes in many sizes, there are no one size fits all. Whether Equine Connections or one to one sessions, each Encounter is a unique experience . We are all unique individuals and seems to me, it's a way I would enjoy being treated as well.

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