I'm gonna get married!

Top of the weekend my friends! I'm gonna get married!

One of these days!! And if by chance I don’t. What’s wrong with being prepared? After all, you are “lucky” when your preparation meets an opportunity! We're you when you jumped the broom?

I'm still taking marriage classes. While in class last night, with my married couple study mates. We were covering “How to resolve conflict” and using Josh McDowell’s book, "The Secret of Loving” for this course. The subject of pet peeves came up and Oh my God!!

Couples in their “married co-habitation” mode can dwell more on the negative instead of the positive aspects of each others differences.

For instance, How you fold the towels? Also how you put them in the cabinet can create some unwedded tension. What you put in the dishwasher and what you should not. Wooden spoons needed to be hand washed. Which actually made sense! (I think) Should the toilet paper go over the roll or under? Oh! And never squeeze toothpaste in the middle. Which didn’t make a whole lot of sense. But I thought easy to be fixed! Can anybody prepare a meal in the kitchen or is that the cook’s domain? My favorite “closet space”. I’m not ready ya’ll!

Yet in the midst of their spirited discussion. There was a whole lotta love! After all, you only care when you’re in love. (Even when you say you don't!) As imperfect human beings, we crave for conversation with those we are closest too. This is part of that process. Now if I touched a nerve or made you laugh. May I also share 4 questions, all married couples and those pending nuptials need to ask each other.

Do you spend more time criticizing people in your mind than looking at their good points?

Do you talk about others in a derogatory manner behind their back?

Do you have a standard for others that you can’t live up to yourself?

Do you pressure others to conform to your standards so that you can accept them more easily?

You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge! Donut ever forget it!