The Illusion of a Destination

*Reposted from original: https://bit.ly/2Y1Oqa1

Some reached out to learn about my reasons in changing careers when HR already seemed so fitting for me, my skills and my personality. Some found solace in seeing a non-technical person pursue something technical so they reached out to hear some advice. Our conversations were always endless so I decided to commit to documenting my thoughts once I am more settled in my new role in this wonderful company I now call home.

Questions typically revolved around where I see myself being with this new choice I made, where I wanted to work or what I wanted to do 5 years down the road, which I did not have answers to. And I told them, I am okay not having an answer because I am enjoying in putting my efforts with what is in front of me. The past me would have asked, “what’s the destination?” and to that now, I have a clear, confident, and could be too overwhelming of an answer to some:

The only destination that is absolutely certain is death.

You can take it however you want but it is a fact I have made peace to accept and it honestly have given me the courage to take a risk while time is still relatively kind to me.

I made my decision when it felt right to do so, with the knowledge that I have gathered based on my research and interactions on top of this yearning to challenge my abilities. I grew up loving Math and computers but my interest in people triumphed though I recognized that there was a nudge to explore these potential options and take the leap if proven necessary. As with where I am right now, I am glad I listened.

Now is what we have. Most of us were brought up with a set of expectations to uphold to and believe it or not, these are mostly internally built and almost hard to unlearn. We are conditioned to believe that we create our destiny as long as we plan and plan and plan but I hope that you have already realized that the universe is controlled by a mixture of several ingredients, not just yours.

The less we detach ourselves from the outcome and the more we focus on the intentions of our current actions, the smoother the flow of our current state.

In this earthly world, one temporary destination leads to another temporary destination and if we do not train our minds to grasp this concept, it will go over a loop that never ends of chasing one thing after another. This is not to say that we must settle or be complacent rather it is the opposite — I will explain more in the future what this means, I want to wrap up my thoughts better.

What is beautiful about knowing that death is the absolute destination. It puts us all on an equal ground. What you put in the world is what is given back to you, this does not count material gain rather a priceless reward: spiritual satisfaction and inner peace. To know that not only have we not compromised our beliefs (this system will also change over time) but also have maximized our experience and presence of what we have right now, at this very moment.

Don’t get me wrong, our ideal destination, the image of it, will come to fruition if this is aligned to the universe’s formula, if you have mastered matching your intuitions calling, your will to act and your ability to give space for life to work its magic.

With that being said, let us remove any pressure on our shoulders on what tomorrow brings and focus on being our best selves in the present. That can mean many things for different people — from speaking your truth to taking a break to registering for that class to applying for that job to having a good conversation with someone you care about to writing an article just like me.

To conclude, I do not have all the answers to my life and I made peace with that a year ago. My newfound realization only validates my continuous journey to maximizing every present experience I am at through self-awareness and immersing in my circumstances. There is no good or bad decisions, as long as you do not intentionally endanger yourself or anyone around you.. go for it.

I would like to think of today as the only day I will ever have because yesterday was a today but now gone and tomorrow could be a today yet to happen.

For the next few months, I’ll be diving deeper into my idea of what it is to be. My thoughts of being. See ya laters, alligators!