I'll Show You Mine If You'll Show Me Yours

This expression reminds me of little boys and little girls becoming aware of the differences in their sexuality and specifically their genitals. This post is not about that.

This is about being right or wrong.

What would it be like if we never, ever made ourselves right or another person wrong?

Hard to even imagine as most discussions will end with an agreement that someone is right or wrong … that is based on ‘their’ standards, values, and ideals.

What would we talk about if not our own point of view? The weather?

That is scientifically-based and takes a quick look online to see what is true, or close to true; what is expected weather based on experience and science.

Not a a great example of in-depth dialogue for the thinking human. I fear there are too few thinking humans … by thinking, I mean learning things we never knew or hearing them in a different way to come up with ‘different’ perspectives.

Part of the dilemma of being right or making someone wrong, for the thinkers, is that with every hungrily sought after and consumed ‘learning,’ comes a change, a reshaping of our perspective. We can conclude that if you are learning and thinking about that learning, your perspective or point of view is being altered all the time.

So why defend being right when tomorrow it will not be the same? It doesn't stay that way.

I am reminded of this funny phrase by Bob Proctor … I laughed aloud when I first heard him share it.

“2% of the people think, 3% of the people think they think and 95% of the people would rather DIE than think.”

The solution for 'showing you mine, then you showing me yours,' occurs among thinking people, who are not attached to their point of view, which is a reflection of what they believe. They will ask the other person the next logical learning question, “Why are you so sure your view is the right one?”

Then the other thinking human tells why their view is sound … and therein lies the learning. We may not embrace all of what is said next. We likely will find at least one sound point that we ‘add’ to our own learning, thereby modifying and shifting our view to include this delightful new-to-us morsel.

And the reverse is also true during the same dialogue when the question is asked the other way around. Now both people have learned and modified their view on the subject.

This is one way to avoid the awful feeling of being right … or being made wrong.

Aren’t’ we all right from our view? And potentially wrong from another’s?

The question is: what is next?