IFS EMAIL IN REVISED BOOK!

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THE REVISED BOOK IS READY TO ORDER ON AMAZON!!!!As, this book is self-published I spent the last 48 hours revising it and adding additional emails. I kept ALL the emails. I wanted to add this one because I think more people are interested in IFS now. This email is what I wrote the psychologist who I was having an affair with. We both were getting into IFS and I wrote out what I thought was "our parts"

On Nov 10, 2014, Sandy Wyllie wrote:

I totally agree. I thought the new path was a direction from God and?the IFS?idea naturally followed. If you pay attention God gives you signs.

Wanted to share what?I came up with for parts...

My Parts:

The Borderline Psychotic?- This is the?part that only sees things in?black/white and?all/nothing. This is a totally irrational part.

The Abandoned Patient?- This is the part that feels neglected and uncared for and very much abandoned as a patient. This part still sees you as her therapist and is insanely jealous of your other patients.

The Frustrated Girlfriend?-?This is part that gets sexually frustrated at the incompatibility around sex. This part also feels very threatened that you don't want a commitment.

?The Sympathetic Friend?-?This is the part that listens and is empathic. This part is closest to the whole self, except for the fact that it can sometimes feel used and over compromised.

The Wounded Child?- This part is the abused and lost little girl of the 60's and 70's. She carries all the physical and emotional scars deep inside her. She expects you to hurt her and she is hypervigilant to any slight that you will.

Your Parts:

?The Madman?- This part is irrational and overreactive. It is scary and threatening.

? The Deadman - This is the depleted and defeated part. This part has no energy, no passion and no enthusiasm. This part is like a walking zombie who is drained of feelings.

?The Therapist?- This is the psychologist who is deeply caring and helpful to all his clients except has only failed the "abandoned patient".

?The Patient?- This is the vulnerable and confused person who seeks psychological help.

?The Boyfriend?- This is the cool but aloof guy that lacks passion and commitment.

? The Wounded Child?- This is the beaten and neglected little boy of the past who wears his scares with pride.

?Each of my parts has a corresponding part to one of your parts. For example, the abandoned patient of mine is angry/hurt at the therapist part of yours for not helping her enough. The girlfriend part is upset with your boyfriend part about the lack of passion and commitment. All of my parts are scared of the “the madman" . The "sympathetic friend" is the only one to understand the "dead man". The borderline sees/experiences ONLY one part at a time and thinks that "part" is your "whole".

?The "bubble" is a state where we are "shut-off" from everything. I'm not sure if we enter the bubble in a "part" or if we even exclude all parts when we are in the "bubble state". This is something to ponder.

?When we are in "self" we can recognize ALL PARTS in ourself and each other and have compassion, understanding and love for them.

Sandy