Identify Your Triggers

Are there things that go on in your world that tick you off and start a process of thinking and behaviour that you're not happy with??

Well, that's because you're human and you are an emotional being.??

Stick with me because this week, I want to help you understand these things so you can use them to shift the behaviour.???

Hi, this is Grant Herbert, VUCA Leadership and Sustainable Performance Coach, and today, I want to continue our conversation around all things Emotional Intelligence, in the second quadrant of self-management, by helping you to identify your triggers.??

Triggers are things that happen to push your buttons and lead to a shift in behaviour.??

For me, a big trigger was traffic.??

I live in Sydney, and when I started travelling a lot, I realised that the traffic here is not as bad as I thought it was. In fact, compared to the other places I have been to, the traffic here is pretty calm.??

However, it wasn’t the traffic or even being stuck in traffic that triggered my unwanted behaviour; it was how I interpreted the situation and what I made it mean. Then, it took my thinking and my behaviour off track.??

By the way, I don't do a lot of traffic anymore unless I'm sitting in the back and someone else is driving because with the way I work nowadays I don't need to.??

However, I had to develop strategies to shift the behaviour because it wasn't good for me, for others, or the greater good.??

If that is something that bothers you, that's great. However, I want to help you identify the things that tick you off and lead you to your unhealthy behaviour.?

It’s a five-step process of self-awareness?

We're going to get this awareness today so that you can take it into next week where I will teach you a strategy to take back control of your behaviour.??

Remember, you are not managing the emotion; you are managing the response to the emotion. Therefore, you need this awareness to develop a strategy to do so.??

Number one is to identify your triggers.

So, for me, it was traffic, and there were also other things that did trigger poor behaviour.??

Now that I am more aware, I’m able to navigate that a lot differently.??

However, some things make me think and behave in a way that is not conducive to the results that I want.??

For instance, I’m triggered by people being late or telling lies.??

The first step is for you to identify the triggers that start your unwanted behaviour.??

It’s ideal for you to come up with a list of half a dozen things however, for this exercise, I want you to identify just one.??

Identifying it gives you a starting point and lets you know that this is what you need to work on.?

Now that you’ve identified the trigger, the next step you need to do is to....

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Grant Herbert (aka The People Builder) describes himself as an ordinary guy, with an outstanding wife and 5 amazing kids, who has a passion to help people escape the performance trap and regain their authenticity in every area of life. He is a VUCA Leadership Mentor, Sustainable Performance Coach, Master Coach Trainer in Social and Emotional Intelligence,?and the founder of People Builders.

Visit?www.grantherbert.com ?to find out how you can connect.