Identify Someone from Just How They Talk

Life is full of surprises and so are people. Live a life that is filled with people who will build you up, and say goodbye to those who tear you down.

Most times you can identify the smart folk subconsciously. But here are some rules-of-thumb that might help you reassure your guesses -according to my experience:

They can read people. Actually, you might feel as if they can see through you. They are aware, they are absorbing their environment. You can pretty much feel their intensity in their gaze. They might even look mysterious or intimidating. You′ll be given the vibe that you are only seeing the tip of the iceberg - probably because you really are.

Because of this tendency to observe others and their great understanding of relations between ideas, they can easily recognize your cognition style and make you laugh either by jokes, observations, or sarcasm. So look also for humor.

Intelligent people are generally more empathetic.

They are not interested in appearing nice to others just because they want to give a good impression.

They will help you when no one is watching. Most times they they couldn′t care less about what others think.

They have a good moral compass - even if they are not religious.

They will understand others and will be the ones to get quiet earlier in an argument when they sense it is going no where - no ego issues.

They won′t support unnecessary violence (not only because they have no ego issues, but because they are logical and see no gain in violence).

So if you are not sure about the intelligence of someone, observe their behavior - especially with people weaker than them in any aspect (socio/economics, appearance, …).

Be ready to hear some off-the-wall ideas about society, religion, politics, etc. They will not be polite when pointing out some truths. They defend truth above all (because truth is logic).

They′ll actually like to discuss and hear eccentric perceptions because that way they can confront what they know. They will hear carefully what you say and will pick your perceptions as puzzle pieces to add at their complex puzzle to get a bigger picture.

You won′t see them giving too much credibility to the opinions of so called ′specialists′ or ′authority′ figures if they don′t think they make sense.

They recognize truth in all perceptions, so they may quickly change from one opinion to another, because they find one truth and then they move on to another truth - so they aren′t that quick to judge ( unless they find logic fallacies in arguments). Important one: In an argument with them, play careful attention to what they say.

Most smart people won′t talk about people but rather ideas. And when arguing they will be objective and won′t try to attack you personally (because logic and no ego issues, again). They don′t argue to win but to get closer to the truth.

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Thank you …Speak Sarcasm. people who often speak sarcastic and rude words have better mental and brain function than those who have never received harsh words or said sarcasm.

Not only that, sarcastic people have outspoken personalities, what they are and usually have a strong and dominant character.

Speak in a soft voice. Some psychological research has found that people who like to speak in a low voice often have problems with self-confidence. 

They often feel inferior or feel inferior so they feel better lowering the sound. Often when they talk they also bow their heads or act shy. 

Speak slowly. People who speak with a slow tempo often often give the impression of being unintelligent and boring, but this can be wrong. 

People who talk slowly are often thinkers and are smart. They are not in a hurry to convey their intentions and thoughts. 

Quick Talk People who often talk fast or in a hurry are usually the people who want to be heard. 

Often they do not have much time to talk or are often interrupted while talking so that when there is time for him to talk, he tries to convey his thoughts as quickly as possible.

Want to add word or two?  

Waiting for things: There is no right time. You are just lying to yourself because you are too scared to try. Admit it or keep living a mediocre life. 

Effort in relationships: No matter how much you love and care, it takes effort. The effort of being honest and vulnerable. 

Be patient enough to work things out to make your relationships stronger. 

Avoiding effort: If you do what’s easy your life will be hard. Your goals demand the next level of you. You won’t change if you avoid challenging things. 

Your comment ….? 

That is the one universal truth that you can apply to all human beings that will explain all behavior.

Why does an attractive woman date the same scumbags over and over? It is what she knows.

Why would a man always pursue cold and emotionally distant women over and over again? It is what he knows.

Why would a guy cheat again and again knowing that it will blow his life apart? It is what he knows.

Why do you go back to the same job you hate day after day even though you are qualified and experienced enough to leave, find a lower stress, higher paying job? It is what you know.

Why do you eat he same shitty food that makes you feel like shit even though you know you’ll feel bad about it after?

 It is what you know.

We greatly underestimate the power of familiarity. Even if something isn’t the best thing for us we will choose it simply because it is familiar.

Sometimes the idea of change is so scary that we’d rather live in the misery that we know well than risk doing things differently and getting an unknown result.

The relationship might be cold, lack communication, be violent, but it is a pain we know how to deal with. It is a pain we often feel we deserve.

We know how to deal and operate within this sort of chaos.

However, being in a relationship that is compassionate, honest, kind, forgiving that can feel so alien that we want to escape from it at any chance.

That is why changing behaviors is so hard. Our brains become wired to believe a certain reality and we reject all thoughts and behaviors that don’t fit into that.

If they disrespect you to your face imagine what they're doing behind your back.