As I wrote this email... I realized I wasn't make sure my needs are getting heard.

Doing what makes you uncomfortable and knowing you are safe

Avery Nubson here, Amy’s husband and business partner. I have the pleasure of writing this month’s newsletter as we focus on the truth, Becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable.

Even day-to-day tasks can be out of your comfort zone. Trust me, it sucks!

A part of growth is being out of your comfort zone. I know it sucks. No matter what you do in your career or personal growth, there will always be something that makes you uncomfortable.

For me, it's calls, anything from sales calls to talking to a client over Zoom. Dialing that phone to talk to family and friends is not even enjoyable. I prefer email or text to avoid a two-way conversation…one that isn’t even considered difficult. This is communication 101, and in my head, I think, “Did I just chicken out?” and “Why is this so scary?” at times, I’m brave enough to pick up that phone and call, but at times I avoid it like crazy, and I have to ask for help with my communication.

That’s when I beat myself up over not doing something that seems so basic and what I proceed to believe is easy for everyone else. Let’s look at Amy’s schedule; she’s either on a call, a video call, an in-person meeting, or a guest Podcast. Every day, 4 or more hours, just like a rockstar! Her schedule TERRIFIES me, and yet she makes it work. If you haven’t had a chance to meet with Amy yet, it's worth getting on her schedule .

What if you did something that made you so uncomfortable the only action was to face it head on?

International travel. This was my third trip overseas but my first solo trip ever. I felt confident about it. I visited Lisbon on a previous trip. I went for some medical services that are not offered in the US. I knew one person here, the medical provider. I rented a room with a family and their puppy. It was crowded and the space was so different from what I’m used to back home. “I can handle this”, I thought to myself.

My out-of-comfort-zone zone

During my time in Lisbon I found myself in a situation where face-to-face communication, asking for help was my only option. the only choice but to conquer my fear. I had been pick-pocketed. I had to communicate with people over the phone and face-to-face with language barriers to get help to know what to do next. Amy took care of freezing credit cards from the states, but I got to spend the day in a foreign country trying to manage this alone. In total I went to four different police stations explaining what happened to find out the answer to my question. What do I do?

Reflecting back now I realize my out-of-comfort-zone situation was not only communication but making my needs known by asking for what I need. I’m too afraid to ask for help or for what I need from the other person.

The last thing I want to do was request something outlandish and get turned down, or make someone uncomfortable. I would sit on my own, knowing my needs are not being met, but too frozen to ask for help. Now I recognize this with friends and family. I’m not able to make my needs known, even to them.

My out-of-comfort-zone zone is not only calls but asking to meet my needs. Now that I’m aware, I can take action steps to slowly get more comfortable out of my comfort zone.

One Constant is Change

Things are always changing and when I go into my uncomfort-zone I remember how strong I can be by reminding myself “I can do this”.

Because I did it.

Alone…

… I traveled to Portugal. … Dealt with my stolen wallet. …Took care of my medical issues.

I did this.

It wasn’t easy. It was scary, uncomfortable and at times I felt like an idiot. Now, I know I can stand for myself.

Next time keep tighter tabs on my wallet.

May you spend time in your out-of-comfort-zone zone in a safe and secure way to discover what your can do.

Avery Nubson

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