I want to call bullsh*t on that

I know we have all done it, looked at someone else and said, “why have I not got that” or “why are they doing so well” and if you are saying “ow I never do that” I want to call bullsh*t on that, we have all done it, I even did it myself this morning on the way into the office looked at someone I know, and he had a brand-new Bentley, so we all do it, I will be honest and admit I do it, I am trying to change that part of my mindset, let me explain why.?

Okay, we all have looked at social or at someone you know from work or home and spent too much time thinking about how are they doing that, or why is life going so well for them, we all know deep down it may just be a show, we still spend all that time thinking about it and worrying about it, we all have those moment when we say “why is that not me” or “why does he/she look so good” we all have done it.??

If you are honest with yourself and really look at the inner you (that does sound like a self-help book), what are you really saying to yourself, I would assume something like “I am not that good” or “I am failure” and I know most people would be saying to you, you are perfect and you do not need to do that, as you may already know I am not that type of person and will say, no one is perfect, you are you, the good bits and the bad bits, and we all need to accept that and learn to live with it and if you want to change it great, but not for everyone else but for you.?

So that may all sound a little self-help book to you, but it is true, if you do not accept who and what you are you will spend too much time giving a f*ck about what other people are thinking or doing.?

So, how do we try and change our mindset to give less f*cks about what other people are doing, this is a hard one as I am sure it is built into our DNA or some deep-down subconscious about wanting to be better than the next person, if I think about it guess it may have come from the cave person days when the fastest or strongest eat and the rest did not, but only guess.??

The way I have tried to change this is to stop thinking about everything being some measuring game of who got to the place first or who earned the most, if you try and use your logical brain and just focus on the business side you can think about Warren Buffett as he did not become a billionaire until he was 50, so if at 45 he want, “f*ck it I am done” he would never have made it, or look at this quote from Michael Jordan "I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." It is so true these people never stopped trying.?

So, get my thinking, do not focus on what other people are doing just focus on your journey, as everyone moves at different speeds, and who cares if that person you see on Instagram has a green Lambo, but what about all he or she really wants is kids and you have two, would he or she be looking at you and saying, “I wish I was them,” they would never admit it but I bet I am right.?

I am never going to say looking at someone else and never say “why have I not got that”, as for all the good will in the world you will do, and I know I will, if you can just stop and think about it and think about what you have and be grateful for it and then hopefully you can be a little less worried about other people and be able to focus a little more on you.?

Try and focus on the macro, what I mean is not focus on the massive things focus on the small wins, let me explain what I mean, instead of thinking I need that Lambo today, focus on small steps to get to the Lambo break it all down into small bit size bits and you will not become overwhelmed with it, you will miss some and hit some, but you will still be moving in the right direction and enjoy the journey that the biggest thing.?