I teared up to an Elton John Christmas song
Matt Anderson
I craft high-converting referral strategies for 8-figure founders and service providers - without paid ads and bribery
“I know there's been pain this year, but it's time to let it go.”?
Like a bolt of lightning, I didn’t realise my five months of depression earlier this year still had deep emotions so close to the surface.
Tears welled up in my eyes.
Man what a f***ing hard time I had this year.
In 2023 I just flat out overdid it.
I was so worried that my 56th year would be my last healthy one like it had been for my dad.
I felt I had to give it everything I had and more in case I never had another chance.
I had plenty of days when I saw no light at the end of the tunnel.
All my past brave writing didn’t help.
What about you??
Whether it was dealing with:
*Conflict in your personal or professional life?
*The loss of a loved one
*A distressing injury
*A painful experience for one of your children
-????????????? did real life’s dark times come and stay with you for a while?
I truly hope not but I expect it did for some of you.
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And then there’s the pain that lingers and reminds you of that time:
A new physical symptom, a financial hole, or relationship strain.
Then you feel shame or embarrassment.
Yes, Elton, there’s been a lot of pain this year and it is time to let it go.
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Here’s what’s worked for me:
1.??????? Start with Self Compassion
Stanford neuroscientist James Doty calls self-compassion “the kryptonite to the inner critic.”
Do the beatings you’re giving yourself have to continue until morale improves? Please.
Treat yourself if you were consoling a good friend?
Name 5 things you did right today.
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2.??????? Focus on What You Can Control
Make a long list that includes:
a)??????? Managing your expectations
b)??????? Patience and faith
c)??????? Doing your best
3.??????? Redefine Success for Yourself on Your Terms?
a)??????? What is your definition of success?
b)?????? What do you really want?
c)??????? What type of person do you want to be?
d)?????? How do you want to feel?
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4.??????? Create an Exciting Vision of the Future
a)??????? See the life you want in DETAIL
b)??????? Write it out and/or use a vision board too
5.??????? Catch the Negative Voice?
a)??????? List the most common fearful and negative thoughts
b)??????? Catch them next time
c)??????? Say: “That’s the old me.”
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d)??????? Forgive yourself with you slip up
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6.??????? Build Your Worthiness
a)??????? TRUST that you have the ability to achieve what you want.
b)?????? Focus outward on making a positive contribution to your community =
You will feel beneficial.
c)??????? Where do you be braver?
“We do not lack ability. We just lack courage. It all comes down to courage.”
-????????????? ?Alfred Adler
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7.??????? Identify How You Want to Feel in 12 Months?
a)??????? Pick the main areas of your life
b)??????? Ask yourself which word best describes how you feel about each area?
c)??????? Decide how you want to feel in 2025 in each of these areas.
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8.??????? Set Some Goals Again
What Would Light You Up Next Year?
This is where you shine. Write down:
“I would love to…”
*Bring in X new clients worth Y who align with my values.”
*Earn $X
“Deepen my expertise in [specific area].”
Now close your eyes and go within:
Why is this so important to you? What’s really at stake for you?
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9.??????? Create 4 Power Habits
Pick 2 for your business, one for health and one for key relationships. Ask:
What ONE action will create the greatest impact if I commit to it consistently?
10.? Align Your Vision with Your Subconscious?
I cannot share this in good conscience without also acknowledging that :
None of this will stick if your subconscious isn’t aligned.
Your subconscious drives 90%+ of your actions.
This makes it critical to address limiting beliefs that hold you back.
I’ve been obsessed with this for months now.
We all need support for our manifesting practices.
Why? Because it takes time for our subconscious to normalise what we see in our dreams.
DM me for more details about The 10X Manifestors Biz Club.
This will help you reprogram old patterns and manifest a life that aligns with your highest energy.
Also to band together with those of you who have had a rough year,
I’m offering a free webinar on Dec 19 at 11am ET called:
?“How to Get More Opportunities Than You Can Handle”
(So that you can make great $$$ in 2025.)
Join my newsletter list for details (in bio) or DM me.
The last word should go to Elton John:?
“I know there's been pain this year, but it's time to let it go.
Next year, you never know
But for now, Merry Christmas”
Matt
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1 个月Matt Anderson you are not alone, we have all gone through something. Thank you for inspiring others to be brave!
Healthy Living and Healthcare Advocate
2 个月As you ride the roller coaster of life you lose friends that have helped you get through the downs and celebrated with you during the ups! Pretty soon it can all become very hard to feel and get through or feel joy! You need to find another ride which defines a different version of you. One that incorporates the gifts the friend’s gave you and you carry from knowing them.
30 years proven track record in Financial Services Senior Management
2 个月Keep Strong Matt, we both know the road of life is a bumpy one and personally I now invest nil time on using my rear view mirror ???? Let’s try to speak pre Xmas ????
Family History Specialist
2 个月Thanks for sharing that. Not enough people discuss their mental heath problems, which I think would really help others who are suffering. I'm glad you are better.