I Should Die . . .
Darren Ford
Building inspiring leaders & engaging cultures while also building a new company.
NOTE: I MAY LOSE ABOUT HALF OF YOU READERS IN THE FIRST PARAGRAPH. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE CONTINUE READING TO THE END.
. . . because I voted for President Trump. I lie. I'm evil. I’m an SOB. And not only should I die but everyone around me should die also.
The most amazing part? The people calling me an evil SOB and clamoring for my death — they don’t even know me!
While scrolling through Twitter last week, I came across a tweet from a highly regarded HR influencer I follow. She made a simple, not-too-ugly (but not-too-nice either) comment about President Trump. That comment elicited three responses directed at all Trump supporters, including me.
Of course, the other side does it, too. When hanging out on Twitter, it doesn’t take long to see ugly comments and name-calling such as everyone on the Left loves China more than America and “Nancy Pelosi is a traitor.” I seriously doubt the person throwing out that gem knows Speaker Pelosi.
How did we let things get so bad, to the point where we hate everyone on the other end of the political (and any other) spectrum, even to the point where we want them to contract Coronavirus and die?
I go into the office every day (well, the last few weeks I’ve stayed home and “Zoomed” into my office) and interact with teammates who have very different political ideas. I differ with other teammates on religion. And we all have different thoughts on culture, immigration, how to raise kids, and the best Mexican food in town.
We sometimes have deep, meaningful, and occasionally emotional and loud debates on these topics. Rarely are any minds changed but we do concede good points when presented.
And guess what? At the end of our sometimes heated discussion, we’re all still friends! How can that be?
We work together, respect each other, and, after the latest political debate, still laugh together because the following four characteristics light the path of our lives’ journeys:
- Mindset: We start by thinking the best of each other. We see each person on our team as unique, bringing special gifts to the team that make all of us better.
- Similarities: There’s more that binds us together than separates us. Regardless of our political leanings, we all want the best for our country, for our company, and for our families. We may debate the best way to run the country or who has the best Mexican food in town, but we all want to take care of the hard-working employees who are impacted by the virus and we all like a good plate of nachos and perhaps a margarita.
- Civility: We’ve decided to treat each other with respect. While the political or cultural conversations may get a little emotional and we may talk over one another, we never scream and yell at each other and we don't call each other ugly names.
- Friendship: What truly binds us together is friendship. We spend time not just talking about work but getting to know each other on a personal level. We may not be BFFs or go on vacation together, but we do enjoy working together. We enjoy accomplishing team goals. We enjoy celebrating the accomplishment of those goals. And we enjoy hearing about each other's families.
Some people just don’t get this, I realize, and never will. In fact, the people who stopped reading this post after the first paragraph, even though at the outset I pleaded for them to stick with it, are probably calling me ugly names right now.
For most of us, though, if we’ll just adopt the four points above, perhaps we can all get along a little better, even to the point of having meaningful conversations about some very important topics.
As for everyone on Twitter or Facebook or LinkedIn who thinks I’m a stupid, evil, SOB simply because I voted a certain way almost four years ago? How about connecting here on LI and let’s get to know each other.
You never know — you may just like me!
Talent Acquisition Professional / Healthcare industry experience / SPHR Certification
4 年Agreed! Good advice!
Vice President specializing in Employee Benefits at Lockton | SHRM Volunteer Leader | Passionate About HR and Talent Development
4 年Powerful article Darren and good reminder to operate with civility and kindness regardless of our different beliefs.
Leadership & Organizational Development/Strategic Change/Executive Coach/Speaker/Author
4 年Interesting article. Sabre furloughed 3,200 employees Thursday. Very sad. I am blessed not to have been furloughed. Hope you are well!
President of Sojourn Partners
4 年I appreciate the openness here. Bravo. Our leaders set examples, and our current leader, who you voted for, should read your article. Many people are worshiping this leader, following his lead, and the people not following him are also follow his lead. Civility starts at the top.
Professional Certified Coach (ICF) with expertise in leadership development & change - positioning people for success!
4 年You're a very likable person, Darren, thanks for sharing your post! I think your article shares a great perspective! If I may offer some feedback, I wish the photo and title were focused in a more enlightening way, rather than focusing on darkness, especially for people who may feel immersed in darkness during this pandemic. I imagine you're being provocative in order to invite people's interest. As an example of my point, just before opening your post, I received an email message from someone trying to extort $2,000 in bitcoin, saying they have personal and embarrassing information they have pulled from my computer. They shared an old password I used as proof that they had information. While I doubt any of that is true, it plays on fears, and I wasn't sure whether the post you sent to me was truly from you because of the title and photo. I initially thought it might be from someone hacking my systems and connections. Again, I love the message you're sharing and I hope more people read it, despite the title and photo. Perhaps others didn't open the post for the same reason I almost didn't. Continued best wishes to you!