I see you
Phil Willcox
Providing analysis, advice & application on the constructive use of emotion in the people, processes and place of work
There, coming toward me but don’t want to be seen. Head down, slightly shaking, hair hiding your face. I see you I see that you are crying and I look. Who is with you, behind you, no one can be found. Bumping shoulders with some and swerving around others, all alone but still moving on, unseen by all others. I see you.
Remembering that I’m in step with another I excuse myself as you pass by. As I reach you I join in your step and say that I see. Something seems to be troubling and I want you to know, that although we’ve not met, I see you and I know. It’s is none of my business, this may be a surprise, I don’t want to know what, who, where or why.
What matters to me is you know you are seen. Right now you matter, and you matter to me, because you seem all alone and yet you are seen. I’m happy to leave you as you go on your way, or we can slow and can chat, what do you say?
I’m ok thanks, I’m moving, somewhere to go. Fair enough then I say, and as you go, remember that here now on this day, someone’s beside you and they care how you go. In this big sea of people, it is you I see.
As I rejoin the person with whom I started this trip I’m asked ‘what happened’ and I have to admit. I don’t really know; they looked sad and alone and I’m sorry I left I just had to make sure, that for that short moment... they were alone no more.
*epilogue*
There are times when I wonder if this really happened as it was so fleeting. From seeing the person to leaving their side must have been all of 30 seconds. I still think of them, selfishly I wonder what they thought of me, my actions, did it help, did it not? I also hope they are well and found what they needed that day.
CEO Critical Insights; and Senior Partner at The Body Language Academy by Joe Navarro
5 年Just read this Phil and it really resonated - small actions can make a difference. Thanks for sharing.
Independent Consultant & Accreditation Mentor at the LPI
5 年Beautiful.