I said yes

But it wasn't the first time you asked me.

If you want something, hell, even if someone wants you, they might want to know how badly you want them. Are you willing to work for it? Are you willing to go and get what you want? Are you willing to convince me you really want it?

Or are you just going to wait until maybe someone calls you back or it falls in your lap?

And then complain when they don't or it doesn't happen.

This applies to jobs too.

I see the posts on here all the time about "being ghosted", and I see the same things on other social media regarding personal social interaction.

I don't want to ghost people but I make a boatload of phone calls, and sometimes getting back to people is challenging. Especially when they've not followed instructions that I give plainly to every candidate we work with.

What is that instruction?

Call us after you hang up with your interview.

Why?

We obviously want to know how it went, while it's fresh. And if you aren't interested, we want to know what happened in the interview so we can learn more about their interviewing style for future interviews.

I've had candidates reach out to me 6 months after they interviewed and say "I never heard back from you after my interview with your client", To which I reply, "did you read the email I sent you? You replied to it."

If you had read it and were really interested in the opportunity, wouldn't you have called me? Action item number 4. call us immediately following your interview.

Here's the thing, everything you do in the job search process is being used to determine your fit culturally and technically and if you really want it. And it's being used to compare you to other candidates interviewing for the job.

So if you haven't heard back, shoot someone a text, or an email, or leave a voicemail, and just say, hey, "I'm really interested in that opportunity, have they shared anything with you?" And if you don't hear back, send them their job description with your own notes as to why you'd knock every one of those responsibilities out of the park. And if they still don't answer...then maybe it wasn't meant to be, but sometimes no matter what, it wasn't going to happen.

In those cases, you'll know you gave it your all and it just wasn't meant to be, and me personally, I can live with that.

In the other cases, where you're still in the fight, show them you want it and make them say yes.

Good luck out there!