I Release my ‘Giver’ Self

Last Week’s Story

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Releasing my ‘Giver’ Self

This eclipse is so powerful because it’s bringing a lot of unconscious patterns to the surface so that we can finally release them and change our ways for the better.

One major pattern that I noticed about myself and that’s preventing me from receiving is that I was giving way too much.

I brought awareness to this pattern a few months ago and I decided to stop posting to Twitter. I now only share links for the blog posts that I publish and that’s it. No more excessive tweeting and sharing.

But my giving is not limited to ‘X’. I realized that in my friendships, I was also giving more than I was receiving. And this applies to everything.

For example, reaching out to friends on Instagram and sending messages to check in or say hi.

I think that’s exactly what triggered my recent decision to stop giving and just be open to receive.

I realized that if some friends feel that they’re too busy to reciprocate or respond to my messages, then I must be giving more than I should.

I know my value really well and I know how good and genuine of a friend I am. So I decided to stop giving – but not only with friends.

I won’t be giving in any interaction – whether it’s online or offline. I can only receive.

Let me tell you what happened so far once I set that intention yesterday.

Examples of How to Receive

Yesterday, this old pattern of being a giver was highlighted and amplified. So I wrote a post-it note that said: “Practice Receiving instead of Giving” and I kept it on my desk, in front of my closed laptop.

Let me share with you what happened since I wrote that note:

• Yesterday, while leaving the building, one of the maintenance guys was at the door speaking to a couple. When he saw me approaching, he held the door for me and I went through.
• Yesterday, I was going into a coffee shop with a new friend and two (not one) staff members held open the door wide open for us to enter. They were both standing there holding the door from both sides.
• I needed to find a restaurant in the HSBC Entertainer app and the waiter helped me find it and went on to process the discount. I let him.
• This morning, I was carrying a big bag of groceries and a guy who was walking towards the building entrance in front of me, held the door open for me and I went through it and thanked him.
• This morning, I was walking at a very narrow pavement and I saw a guy walk in the opposite direction. The pavement can only fit one person. So I stayed on the pavement and he had to get off of it to make way for me. Yes! In the past, I would always get out of my way and move for the other person. OMG. I just remembered that when I was an adult, my mom once advised me to move out of the way if it’s a man. Wrong! I get the reason as to why she gave that advice but it’s wrong!

How to Shift this Pattern

• Let go of control.
• Practice receiving in place of giving. This applies to all interactions with humans – whether online or offline.
• Embrace being a woman and let the man do his role.
• Practice being and allowing instead of taking action.
• Practice slowing down.
• Practice being in the feminine energy versus the masculine energy.

Receiving Mode: ON

One last thing that I want to add is that even when I’m not receiving, I won’t be giving. For example, let’s say that no friend reaches out to me. Great. I will still not reach out, engage with their social media content or take action. I will simply be. I’m in receiving mode only. There’s no energy left for giving.

Since I’m only receiving, feel free to get my ebook for $9.99 USD for a limited period. Thank you in advance.

Receiving mode: ON.

Love,

Leela