I Regret This!

“I think my parents took the wrong baby home from the hospital. I strongly feel this is not my life.” I said this to a friend once. I was feeling frustrated and stressed.

“If I could change something, it would be to be born into a different family” I added bitterly.

This was at a very tough time in my life. I did contemplate suicide a few times. I felt the burden was too heavy to bear.

Have you ever played that game—what would you change if you could go back in time? It’s easy to get caught up in the “what-ifs” and “if-onlys,” thinking about the decisions we wish we could rewrite.

The embarrassing mistakes, the missed opportunities, the painful moments that felt like they’d break us. I’ve asked myself that question countless times.

But here’s the twist: If I could actually go back, I wouldn’t change a single thing. Not a thing.

Sounds crazy, right? Let me explain.

Embracing Every Experience—Good, Bad, and the Ugly

I’ve had my fair share of rough patches—times when I was stuck, scared, and just plain lost. There were moments that made me question everything.

Decisions that led me down paths I wasn’t ready for, and challenges that felt like mountains I could never climb.

But looking back now, every step, every stumble, and every wrong turn was part of a journey that brought me right here, to this moment.

Every good day and every horrible one shaped me into who I am today. And who I am today is someone I’m proud to be.

I deeply admire my mom’s resilience, perseverance, humble spirit, and nurturing nature—qualities that have inspired me and shaped much of who I am today (probably around 80%, haha).

From my dad, I’ve learned the value of strictness, high standards, hard work, and discipline. I incorporate these traits into my own life, finding a balance between their guidance and my own path.

Do I wish I was born in a different family, not anymore (one of my brothers is pushing it though lol)

My only regret is wasting time complaining, whining and crying about stuff I had no control over.

The lessons hidden in every setback

The truth is, you learn more from your setbacks than your successes.

• The failures teach resilience.
• The heartbreaks teach compassion.
• The missteps teach wisdom.
• And those moments of sheer uncertainty? They taught me courage—the kind you can’t find in comfort zones.

If I erased even one of those tough moments, I’d lose the lesson that came with it. I’d be less equipped, less aware, and less determined. I wouldn’t trade those experiences for anything, because they’re the reason I’m able to navigate today’s challenges with a bit more grace and a lot more grit.

Live today with tomorrow in mind

And that brings me to the present. Now, every decision I make is with the awareness that, in ten years, I want to look back and say, “I wouldn’t change a thing.” It’s not about avoiding mistakes—it’s about embracing the journey, knowing that every choice is a brushstroke on the canvas of your life.

I’m not striving for perfection, and I know the road ahead won’t be flawless. But I’m choosing wisely, living intentionally, and appreciating every twist and turn along the way.

Because when the day comes to look back again, I want to feel the same gratitude for the journey, bumps and all.

Your journey is your power

So here’s my message to you: Don’t waste time wishing you could rewrite your past. Every chapter, even the messy ones, has a purpose.

Instead, focus on writing your next chapter with intention, with passion, and with the courage to embrace whatever comes your way.

Your past prepared you for today, and today prepares you for tomorrow. Trust the process, cherish the growth, and keep moving forward. Because one day, you’ll look back and realize that every moment—good, bad, and everything in between—was a step on the path to becoming who you were meant to be.

Would you change anything if you could go back? Maybe you’d say yes now, but give it time. Life has a way of showing you why every piece mattered.

Cheers to embracing what was, what is, and what is yet to come and living with no regrets.

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