I only have eyes for you

Find That Person You Actually WANT To Be Exclusive With !

Real love comes without any expectations. You don't have anything to prove, nothing to win. Yes, at the beginning of a love affair, you're trying to entice and impress each other, but as time goes on there's no need to perform in order to make love last.

This may seem obvious, but I see people again and again who say "I Want a committed relatioinship now, and the person I'm with feels like a decent match, so why not?" That's a hard setup for long-term monogamy.

Don't make marriage be the only thing you care about in life.

If you're obsessed with weddings and marriage, there’s a slight possibility that it might turn people off because it might appear that that's all you're banking your life on.

If you want to feel inspired to stay committed, you need to find a person who inspires you, shares your sense of humor and adventure, and turns your body, mind and heart on in a variety of ways — the person who you want to leave the party with again and again. This may take time and several false starts.

At times you will be bored with your mate, your sex life, your home life, your life together. Sometimes you are simply not that into him and what’s more, sometimes he is not that into you. Sometimes this can last for minutes or hours; other times, it can last for months or years.

If you're centered on any one thing, it's going to make you unbalanced.That one-point mindset might make people question why you don't have other things in your life that are equally important — your family, friends and career. Don’t be a one-dimensional person; keep your interests alive in all different areas of your life.

If you start out comparing your guy to others and wishing your guy was different in this way or that way, you may eventually find yourself just wishing for a different guy altogether. 

We live in a world of attractive people and no matter how appealing your partner is, you'll still notice the other people out there. The romantic saying, "I only have eyes for you" is not realistic. Our culture makes sure you see and encourages others to see you.

Committing to monogamy requires honesty with yourself about this, and you must prepare to shift the desire stirred up in the world back to your partner. You must learn how to respond to your own desires in ways that feel right to you, and you can only learn this by acknowledging that your desire for others will not go away, even when you find the one person you want to commit to.

It can become easy to hide out in long-term relationships; forgoing your independence and drive to reach your potential and take risks in going for your dreams. Your guy may become stagnant as well.

You will be disappointed. You will be challenged. Relationships require vulnerability; intimacy demands it. Long-term committed relationships will always provide opportunities for you to deal with your insecurities, fears, and wounds.

There’s nothing wrong in admitting you think about marriage; that doesn’t have to mean tomorrow.

The right guy for you is going to appreciate your honesty.

When a man is falling in love with a woman, there are many small or less obvious things about her and her personality that will bring a smile — not only to his face but also to his heart.

You want to know for sure that your guy  is committing to you — the person you really are, not the self you can pretend you are if you have to. And you want to know you're committing to a life you can happily embrace, not one with creeping resentment.

Your thoughts …………………?

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Thank you … Whether the two of you are cuddled up on the couch or standing next to each other waiting for your taxi , a man loves being close to the woman in his life. It's a great way to feel connected with someone — physically and emotionally. It's hard to beat the feeling of the woman you care about laying on your chest or resting her head on your shoulder. Don't ask me why, it's just science.

He checks in on his way home. With a quick text, “Leaving the office  in 10 minutes. See you soon…” he lets you know that he hasn’t forgotten you, and that he’s ready to be with his favorite person again.

He’s not sending this text because he thinks you’re paranoid, needy or insecure. He sends it out of mutual respect. He knows that giving you a head’s up prevents you from worrying about his safety or his level of sobriety. And it reminds you that he realizes the best part of his night has yet to begin.

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