I and Me are always in deep conversation

To start with let us think of this sentence as being an expert in some field, for example you're extraordinary in spirituality. Now you can understand why you can't talk with everyone about that. Simply because they didn't study it the way you did in deep sense, didn't advance the way you did and now if you insist them to discuss with you on the subject ‘spirituality’, then you are the stupid one, because it doesn't occur to you that other people may not have so much of knowledge of the subject as you have. Therefore it is you who goes into conversation with the self on the subject and we go digging our inner most core to have a dialogue with our soul.

Now when you take it into a broader context, you're obviously interested in a wider spectrum concerning life than people around you and have the inclination to go into that, whatever the conversation is about. Whatever the subject is you want to know more about it, understand it better. But, what you don't understand is that people are not ‘into spirituality’. They have very quickly their opinion, but if you ask them ‘based on what?’ you mostly don't get a good argument/explanation on their knowledge of spirituality.

If you're looking for something determine in which area it can be found. Otherwise you'll bump your head onto walls. You cannot get out of spirituality if it's not in there, so for social reasons just put up with them. There's always something to learn though it may not always be the thing you wished for.

As a wise man had once said - there is a time for everything my friend. You see, I used to be in your shoes. I could easily go down with my close friends on critical issues but when I'm out with new people, I find my own spirituality with me. I really believed then that every conversation I have with myself should be meaningful.

But, the thing is that deep talk about ideas, real life issues etc doesn't work for everyone. Life shouldn't be lived seriously all the time. Real time conversations with self could be fun too provided you do it in privacy or people will consider you as crazy, when they find you funny talking to yourself, then you just have to listen and smile and answer others questions too.

Another focal point is answering others questions about yourself, and refrain from using any reactions like "okay and fine" when others question you, elaborate and give a lengthy response always based on your own knowledge and deep sense of spirituality inside you. But please avoid going deep and trying to know everything about people lives the instant you meet them.

The moment I came to this realization, it became easy for me to have small talk with others. I starting seeing small talk as conversations about everything and nothing about me. You're not doing it to learn anything, it's all about whirling time away and having a good time doing so. Small talk is when you just speak of general topic of an undefined subject and don’t go too deep into the subject. Usually small talk is often a mean to start a conversation between two or more strangers or a very brief conversation with friends, lover or acquaintances.

If every small talks turn into a philosophical discussion, yes people, will tend to want to avoid speaking with you because not everyone needs or wants to learn about the barometric pressure tendency when they just want to tell you that they feel it’s cold outside. Personally, I hate small talk, in the morning you can say good morning, and you will get a short and simple reply from me, however if you’re pressing me on giving your or my opinion on whatever murder happened last night, you will be ignored. There is a time and place for small talk and often the context is just introductory which may or may not lead to a longer discussion.

As much as you wish to elaborate on just about everything with everyone, a good communicator knows when to cut a conversation short just by looking at the other person’s receptive behavior. I am not a fan of small talk either, but small talk is what gets you going in a longer discussion most of the time. You say you can’t do small talk, but how do you usually start a long lasting conversation? Not everything you talk about is a theoretical essay. Engaging with yourself in deep conversation is an art and everyone can't be good in that like you depending upon their spiritual levels matching yours. Stay blessed! #kishoresintre #possessedbywritingspirit