I Love Me. Now, a little more!

It was so surprising to realize that I honestly did not have time for me even during the me time. I asked a few questions to myself when I discussed with me about the purpose of existing and the intention of living.

That's when I started taking myself out, I went for a date with myself and realized how much I deserve to be loved. I have started making notes about how less did I help me and even found certain terrible stuff I did to harm me.

People often think about this after a tragic break-up or when they want to validate themselves just because somebody did not. I am doing and feeling the other way around.

Even if you have a wonderful partner, even when you are around the best people who love you its inevitable to love yourself and yeah, unconditionally!

I cant stop Sharing my way of Art below which may help you to genuinely 'love yourself, MORE!'

• Art of respecting the moment:- Develop a healthy habit of being intensely involved sensing and feeling the current moment. This is something that we miss practicing these days and I think it's important to acknowledge what's meant to be experienced and what do we actually experience. Ask yourself when was the last time you paid complete attention eating your favorite food sensing it's taste, smell and magic of feeding yourself.!? Taking a warm shower letting the drops of water rubbing your skin cleansing your mind and body? Falling asleep with a smile and without the burden of regret-anger and confusions. I am sure it will be an injustice to educate you about the importance of being mindful!
• Art of prioritizing:- Always differentiate between Need and Want when you think you are moving closer to a chaos or even otherwise. This one small thing will help reducing your potential burden in near future and may also empower making a decision with less ambiguity. This one thing really helps when you want to shell out money for shopping anytime anywhere.
• Art of Self Care: This is one pleasant thing I have started practicing recently. You may not know how blissful its going to be. Try applying a face pack, start hitting gym or even try to alter your hairstyle once in a while. Trust me, this is something that will help bringing in a lot of self confidence, happiness and excitement. Pamper yourself, feed good care to yourself and you will see the result that is going to surprise you which I wont be surprised about.
• Art of Saying 'No': We should know; a no is a no! Be determinant enough to make it loud and clear not just saying a no but to practice it. If its not helping you, if its going to harm you, if its upsetting your mental health and peace don't hesitate saying a no. Its okay to let go things. Its okay to filter the right people who genuinely care for your emotions and decisions. I am sure including me there are a lot of people out there who are still pretty much unsure about the courage to say a no but believe the sort of positive impact it will give you in the long run is immense.
• Art of Protecting yourself: Have you often heard people saying 'I completely know that he/she/it really makes me feel bad and terrible but cant cut off just because I just cant'. You may have heard about frenemies (those who claim to be your friends but who actually find happiness witnessing your struggle, pain and failure) Distant yourself from such people. End of the day you may have nobody around you or you will have the best ones with you. Make this decision of valuing your importance, realize you deserve to be treated well and paid enough respect for all big and small things you do.
• Art of kindness and forgiveness: Its human nature to commit mistakes. Let's not talk about the good in bad-bad in good theory. I am talking about forgiving yourself. I have done horrible things in my past. I have grieved my grudge and regrets I have moved on. Moreover I feel better when I understand I don't belong to my mistakes anymore. I can handle much better and I have taught myself forgiving is such a sweet healing tool. Try it and you wont regret. I know you are kind but I am sure you don't know that its a rare quality. Being kind is not a choice, its the wisdom to live every day with a bright smile on your face that is going help a lot people forget their pain.
• Art of loving your intentions: Every single person will have a purpose when they do something. Let that not be significant enough. I recollect an incident of sharing my food with an online food delivery partner and offering a tea to one of the traffic cops which seemed to be a simple gesture yet gave me tremendous pleasure. I slept well that night. Value your intention asking these questions to yourself; Is this making me happy? Is this making someone else happy too? Is there kindness, ethics and empathy involved? If the answer is YES to all three questions, don't put yourself in a tough situation anymore draining your brain. Like an old wise man said; 'don't think twice to do a good thing'

'Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.'