I look too young / I look too old

I was watching a video with Brooke Castillo (the founder of the Life Coach School)?when my ex walked by me and saw her on the screen.

He was the most judgmental person I know, so he saw her and immediately judged her by her age. (Brooke Castillo is I think in her 50’s).

He looked at her face on the screen and he said “She looks ancient! Why are you listening to that grandma?”?

I looked at him and I said “She is helping me I don’t care what she looks like”?

The same thing happened on a different occasion when he saw me watching a video with a Life coach who helps other life coaches in the industry make money, Stacey Boehman. This time his comments were different. He said “SHE looks 12 years old! Why would you get advice from a 12-year-old?”?

Same thing. I Said, “She’s helping me, I don’t care what she looks like!”?

And do you think that Brooke Castillo or Stacey Boahman have ANY thoughts or concerns about whether people are judging them for looking “too old like a grandma or too young, like a 12-year-old?!”

NO freaking way.?

I Can guarantee you that they do not care.

Because they are TOO Busy.

--> Too busy focusing their energy on how to help someone like ME, who IS listening to them and Benefiting.?

--> Someone who can BENEFIT and wants to Binge on their knowledge, lessons, and stories.?

They do not give a tiny rat’s ass who is thinking they may look too young or too old. And what good would that do them if they did?

Because if they were spending energy caring about that.?

If they did let that take over as a thought in their brain.

They wouldn’t be able to do much about it anyway right?

THEY Are here to serve people. Both of these women have deeply served me.?

And the only thing different about them and others their age? Is that they are more connected to what matters than how they may look to others.

They are here to do something important.

There are so many more interesting things about them than what age they may or may not look.?

--> Their energy

--> How they speak

--> What they choose to share

--> How they put together ideas in a way that I can understand

--> How they answer questions

--> Their courage to share contravercial things and talk openly about money

--> Their deepest lessons

--> Their fails and their successes

--> Their concepts?

--> Their feedback

--> Their ideas?

I for one couldn’t really care much about their age, than I do about how what they say impacts me at a core level.?

How they show up, how they write something to get my attention, how they bring me in with the value they share, and how they have me binging their podcasts for weeks and looking forward to what they are going to do next.?

One of my favourite Mentors is Korean and I swear I didn’t even notice because I read her WORDS first.?

SO if you are someone who is worrying about looking too young or too old for your desired career or role.

Try something with me. Just as an experiment:

What if you stopped caring about it for just 30 days?

Just as an experiment to see what else you could discover matters more?

What if for 30 whole days you went all in on everything else about you that you have to offer.?

Your knowledge of certain topics.

Your stories of interesting experiences you’ve had.

Your passion for particular problems you’ve solved.

Moments that have shaped who you are today.

Anything that makes you feel strong and powerful that is a real part of you as a human being.

Because…

You are NOT your AGE.?

You are not your body.

You are a whole conciousness that goes deeper and has SO much more that people can’t see when you’re so busy focused on what people MAY be thinking about how old or young you look.?

And as I shared above, some people are judgemental (like my ex) and they will judge you based on how you look.

This is a reality there is no point in arguing with, because we will lose 100% of the time.

So can we just agree that those aren’t your people?

Turns out those are not MY people either, and those people are not very fun people to be around in this lifetime either way.

But what about the people who ARE looking for the essence of you, and WANT to binge on everything you have to say.

The people LIKE me, and many like me, who experience resonance and I want more and are looking for something deeply unique.

THOSE are the people you miss talking to and connecting with BECAUSE your’e afraid of how the Judgmental people in the world may or may not perceive you.?

And that isn’t fair to you or to the people who DO Want to pay attention to you, no matter your age.

So Do me that favour.?

For just 30 days.?

Go all in and pay attention to EVERYTHING else about you that is highly interesting, useful, valuable, fun, creative, fallible, imperfect, and SMART AF.?

Then see if you like that better.

Just try it on.?

I don’t think you’ll want to go back to focusing on the petty aspects that only the judgemental a holes of the world seem to care about.?

Let me know how the experiment goes.?