I Just Realized This Thing About Fear

There nothing I love more than to help women be successful in their relationships and in their careers.

But then there’s FEAR.

I know you know this, but to get what you want, you have to move beyond fear. Dah.

For the longest time, I didn’t know what that meant.?Like, how do you actually move beyond fear?!

Here’s what I did. I pushed through. If you’re anything like me, you do too.?

Pushing through works to an extent. But the result is limited.?

Because fear is a sneaky m-f, it will hold you back in ways you won’t even realize it’s fear.

Hello procrastination, distractions, confusion, uncertainty, I don’t know enough [fill in your favorite way to keep you from doing what you need to do]!

The other day, my business coach Celia Arias said something that really hit home: “You have to create safe spaces on the way.”

Like a step you can rest on on your way up the mountain. ??

I’ll give you an example.

My social media grew a lot this winter because I started sharing more vulnerably. (Like I did here.) But then, with all these new followers, it started feeling scary to put myself out there. I've been playing safe. The times I have put myself out there, I have gotten push back, been trolled, and I’ve lost followers.

So, here’s how I am creating a safe space for myself right now.

I tell myself:?It is safe to be disliked. It is safe to be unfollowed.?

I feel into it. Every day. I feel the truth, which is that the right people will hear my message and get what they need from it. And regardless of the haters and the unfollowers, I know I am safe, I am supported, and I am loved.?

I?know?that’s true.

Here’s what I want you to understand. Moving past fear is not a one and done. Even the best of us deal with fear EVERY F-ing DAY.?

(Those who tell you they don’t are lying…mostly to themselves. ??)

What’s a fear you’re dealing with right now? Let me know!?

With love,

–Unni

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PS: Being a human connection expert means that I am good at helping people get what they want. I mean , really good! Curious if I can help you? DM me or book a 15-minute coffee chat.