I Judge you a lot !

I will begin this article with the conclusion you're going to reach at the end.

I judge you. A lot.

The story follows. Since the last few months, I have been practising to pay attention to my thoughts in different circumstances I am in. I pay attention to my thoughts when I wake up, when I am doing chores or any other time as well. It was a good exercise to keep myself busy during my free time and also a way to get closer to my real self. So I have been trying to pay attention to my thoughts while I am either interacting with somebody or thinking about somebody. The objective was to truly realize how judgemental my mind gets. Though I used to think of myself as a non-judgemental person and I have quite many testimonials to prove the same. But the results of Observing My Thoughts (OMT) experiment clearly proved otherwise. And I had to hesitatingly conclude, that I am indeed judgmental. Of significant magnitude.

As a small experiment today, I was going through the requests I had received on my Linkedin profile today and I started paying attention to my thoughts while accepting or ignoring a request. And I could see how my mind started making perceptions about those people. Primarily based on their designation, achievements, blah blah blah. The Eureka moment arrived was when I came across the profile of a Venture Capitalist and immediately jumped to accepting his invite versus another profile right before his which I simply ignored.

This small experiment led me, first of all, to feel a little bad about myself and then to try thinking of a better or rather correct way of making the grand decision of either accepting or ignoring a profile. The best part of figuring out the correct way is that I have to ensure there are no judgements involved now on. But irrespective of whatever method I could think of, every one of them has some layers of judgement for the other person. I also observed a strong tendency of my mind to try to keep me happy by coming up with logics about how and why I am right. And how it's correct to ignore a person solely based on their profile. I still don't have a judgement-free method to make this decision. I am thinking of it. Maybe I will start accepting requests from anyone who puts an effort to get connected to me. Or maybe something else. Who knows?

Now it's your turn. To observe your own thoughts and get to know if you are also in the same boat or not.

I only write when I feel a strong inspiration to pen down something personal. That was one moment of inspiration for me a couple of hours ago when I felt it's correct and important to share this with you all. Comments are more than welcome. As they have always been :)

~Founder Uncle, StayUncle