I Have Been So Wrong About This...

“If we don't control our birth and our death, the beginning and the end of our story, what makes us think we'll have control over the events in the course of our existence?”

It’s a chilly, wet morning, and a man steps out of his home to head to the office. His workplace is less than a kilometer away, so he usually walks—unless he’s running late, in which case he takes his bike. Today, he decides to take a slow stroll to brainstorm a project idea.

Just a few minutes into his walk, there’s a loud bang. Sharp, excruciating pain shoots through him. Blood runs down his face as his eyes flutter half-open. He’s been hit by a car, and the next thing he remembers is losing consciousness.

When he comes to, he hears the beeping of machines. Voices murmur around him. “He’s stable,” someone says, “but we need to amputate his legs.” Tears start rolling down his face. The physical pain fades into the background, replaced by the emotional weight of what’s to come.

This man, however, would go on to become an Olympic-winning Paralympian.

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The story shows us that while we can control some decisions—such as how we approach life—we cannot control everything. Life will throw challenges, uncertainties, and sometimes, overwhelming pain our way. And in those moments, what we do have control over is how we respond.

Do we let the uncontrollable derail us, or do we find strength in trusting the process?

I used to think we have a lot of control over our lives but we don’t. We live with the illusion of control. This is why most people have a huge mental breakdown when things don’t go as expected.

The percentage of our lives that we have control over is widely debated, but estimates often range from around 10% to 20%.

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Even though much of life is determined by external events or genetics, the part we do control includes our actions, attitudes, and how we respond to life’s unexpected events.

The key is focusing on what you can influence, even if it's a small percentage, and letting go of what you can't control.

Simple not easy.

Ultimately, it’s important to focus on what is within our control—our mindset, our actions, and our perseverance—and leave the rest to God.

We may not be able to dictate outcomes, but we can always choose how we navigate the journey.

Cheers to you preparing ourselves to handle the unexpected by focusing on what we can control and letting go of what we have no control over.

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