I have been lying to myself!
Erwin Wils
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I've been lying to myself!
This picture is taken in 1987, 35 years ago. It's my father and me. My father died in 2002. I didn't only see him as my father, he was my friend as well, my biggest fan, and I do miss him.
As a coach, I want my clients to become the best versions of themselves. I have been searching for ways to become my own best version as well, and I thought I was doing a great job. Until August 2022.
I attended a 3 days training from Dr. Roy Martina M.D and Milan Somers . I can truly say it was life changing for me.
On the first day, Roy said that will power is a curse, because you're forcing things. In Dutch, will power is written as "wilskracht" and I used to say I have my own power called "Wilskracht" (due to my last name). So I had to stop saying that. Later that day Roy mentioned the relation between the mind and the body and as an example, he said that if you have a left knee that hurts, it means you're forcing too much. Guess which knee is bothering me.....
On the second day, Milan asked us to write down 3 limiting beliefs. I didn't know what to write, yet suddenly I wrote down 3 statements, all of them starting with "I must......". I started to see a theme. Also, there would be 1 belief that included all 3. For me, it was "I am not allowed to be myself".
On the third day, Roy said that those 3 days were great, yet we were about to enter the "real world" again, meeting people that didn't attend this event and that would trigger us, at least the "old" us. He asked us to write down 3 names that triggered us, why they triggered us and how we would deal with that in our new being. I could only come up with 2 names, my mother and my oldest son. And suddenly, it hit me.......
Like I said, I had a great relationship with my father. I couldn't imagine a better one. And I had always said that I wanted the same relationship with my kids. Just because they deserve only the best. and since our 2 boyse came to us, I wanted to build that same relationship. And that was EXACTLY the issue!!!
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Because, the only way to get the exact same relation as I had with my father, is when I become my father and my son becomes me, and that's a mission impossible! That's why we triggered each other so much. I was my biggest obstacle! I am not my father and my oldest son is not me. Everything suddenly made sense to me. And it definitely changed my business.
I want my clients to become their best selves, and the only way (imho) to achieve that, is to get back to their very core and unleash their full potential. Imagine an onion, peeling off all layers until you get to the very core. And that will be my renewed mission. I peeled off some massive layers during this event and I'm getting closer and closer to my own core thanks to my coach/mentor and friend Ramni Believe Energy?? as well.
Dr. Roy Martina M.D , Milan Somers , Ramni Believe Energy?? , thank you for creating the opportunity to become my true self.
with regards to my business, when I coach you, there will be no "must". You're doing things, you're taking steps, because you want to. I will guide you, share my knowledge, give you insights, tips and tricks, so that youtruly know who you are and can make that positive impact. I have plenty of tools, knowledge and experience and with my coaching program "Profitable Passion Program(tm)" we can create a life changing year together. That's my promise to you. Interested? Contact me and let's chat.
PS: After day 1, I only use the quote "Where there's a Wils, a better way will be"
PPS: My new belief after day 2: "By being my true self, I create what I want".
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2 个月Erwin, thanks for sharing, always good to see some insights from people who have viewed my profile or are connected to me.
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2 年Your story is really moving, Erwin. I wish we saw more authenticity like this in social media and content marketing. It's easier said than done: I know from my own experience that writing about yourself is one of the most difficult topics to write. How was it for you?
Really love this! Language (that we use with ourselves) is everything. 'Should' is another example. Thanks for sharing!
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2 年Such an authentic post and what an amazing of epiphanies you had last month. I’m sure your clients will benefit even more from you. ??????
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2 年What a life changing experience Erwin Wils - Mindset and Business Strategist, beautiful picture. How is the relationship with your oldest after this change? Thx for sharing, I loved reading about your family and the program.