To the Shooter in Charleston: I Hate You
David L. Katz, MD, MPH
CMO, Tangelo. Founder: Diet ID; True Health Initiative. Founding Director, Yale-Griffin PRC (1998-2019). Health Journalist. COVID Curmudgeon
Views on god and religion vary widely, of course. My own views are likely rather transparent to those who pass this way routinely, but are immaterial either way. We may, I trust, agree- whether we endorse a god of personal attachment, a god detached and dispersed to the far corners of the cosmos, or no god at all- that preacher and parishioners in that church in South Carolina were worshiping principles of love and solidarity, not divisiveness and hate. Perhaps the godliness of those ideals is sufficient to make us all members of that congregation, whatever the deity, or want of same, to whom they attach.
The particular deity for that particular congregation is, of course, Jesus. Jesus taught love and mercy, compassion and connection. Famously, he renounced his perennially ill-tempered father’s inclination to poke out eyes in retribution for eyes poked out, and instead- to turn the other cheek.
Reflecting on that, I hate the fact that I’m thinking surely even Jesus would by now have run out of unbloodied cheeks to turn. Surely even a wellspring of forgiveness would at some point be unwilling to forgive. What becomes of us all when every cheek is already battered?
My thoughts are drawn to that congregation, of which I pledge myself a member in ways I think matter most. I find myself drawn to those grieving families and feel the weight of their loss and pain. I hope that even this unimportant expression of our human bond and common burden lightens the load some trivial bit. I feel, fleetingly, love.
But then my thoughts turn to hate. I hate the disgraceful excuse for a human being who perpetrated this crime. I hate those who raised within his hateful soul those hateful inclinations.
I hate him, and nothing that can happen to him now is as bad as he deserves. Nothing is bad enough to satisfy.
I worry that this primacy of hate over love means he and his kind have won something. I worry that my unwillingness to find forgiveness means I am surrendering something. I worry that for evil to prevail in the world it may be enough for bad people to make good people hate.
If so, the better destiny of the world must depend on people far better than I. Because I was far away, and uninvolved, and unbloodied. And yet I was there- and I hate him.
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David L. Katz, MD, MPH, FACPM, FACP
Director, Yale University Prevention Research Center; Griffin Hospital
President, American College of Lifestyle Medicine
Editor-in-Chief, Childhood Obesity
Founder, The True Health Coalition
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9 年This is a horrific crime, a hateful crime. That stated, I am sorry, Dr. Katz, that you are filled with hate at the moment. So too is the young man, who has probably never known love. I am a bit surprised, given your education and position, that you are stuck in this. Having worked with people who might be seen by some as the lowest of the low, I learned a long time ago to 'put them back in their cradle". As a Christian/Buddhist I try to 'hate the sin, love the sinner'. I would have thought that you would understand that there is more to this than 'born evil'. It takes many many things to make a killer/ a terrorist. Hate is just one of the ingredients.
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9 年I was wondering why his dad decided to give him a "gun" for his birthday?
Retired, University of Nebraska-Lincoln, and retired owner and Freelance Editor at Wordy-gig English Language Editing Service
9 年Hate never built anything lasting. So we make a choice to love, because perhaps love can build something lasting. The kid wasn't born a radical racist. He was born an ordinary kid, and something happened to him to turn him into the shooter. Let's figure out what happened and try to stop it from happening to any other kid. Look at it like a public health problem. What is the host? the agent? the environment? Turn hate into anger, and turn anger into intelligent action, because you love this country and the kids living in it.