I hate these 4 words in my inbox

Hi [Name],

I hope this email finds you well.

I hate these 4 words in my inbox.

No, not the above ones, that's more than 4! But these 4...

‘What are your thoughts’.

Every month I get these:

Q) What are your thoughts on the best savings account?

A) one that you actually use.

Q) What are your thoughts on [insert latest fad]?

A) I don’t have any, as I’ve never done/used it.

Q) What are your thoughts on my situation?

A) I don’t have any because I don’t know you.

Q) I inherited money. What are your thoughts on what to do with it?

A) I don’t know you, your goals, your risk profile. I don’t know, but use it toward your goals?

OR I get the…

Big long-winded email with no real questions and quite clear they are wanting me to make a major life choice for them followed by ‘just wondered what your thoughts are?’.

Sadly, sometimes these people have already asked me something before and often not gone and taken any action.

They might have asked for ‘the best podcast to get started with?’.

Probably ‘the 2 ticks you webinar’ that took me weeks to put together.

Then I find out they’ve never gone and used these resources.

So before I blow another gasket, let’s think about what is going on here.

If you say things like ‘what are your thoughts’.

Think about what you’re really asking?

I repeat, what are you really trying to ask someone when you say this?

My response is often not to provide my thoughts but to ask them the same question back.

‘Well, what are your thoughts?’.

Because you must have some. And they are valuable. You are capable of making decisions.

Another question I love to ask people is:

‘What are you scared of?’.

Because I am sure many people don’t need other people’s thoughts, they are probably scared of taking action and finding out.

Ooooor of ‘failure’ too.

Failing and getting things wrong is not failure.

We must test and learn.

To be willing to go backward to go forward.

To be willing to be wrong, to in turn learn how we got it wrong.

Stop delegating out your decision-making and thinking to other people, ESPECIALLY if you still won’t take action.

Here are 3 things that will keep you stuck that you need to be mindful of:

? Don’t know what you are aiming for? You’re going to be stuck. Sorry!

? It is hard for anyone to help you if you don't know what you want or what you are aiming for. Life gets easier when you can ask better questions based around where you’re aiming.

? Over thinking is a disease.

? Collecting ALL the info and still not taking action means you’re no further ahead.

Now, I am all for asking people for help IF you’ve done some thinking first.

But too many people rush to others to make their life choices before thinking about what they want and why.

We aren’t at school anymore.

Uncross your legs, push up with your hands, stand on your own two feet and start making some decisions and taking some action.

I am sorry, but I am not going to be able to do it for you.

Yes, I am here for some story time to get you thinking and get your imagination going, but I am not going to help you get across the jungle Jim.

I will be cheering for you though! And encouraging you to get back up if you fall.

But you have to hold the bar and swing from one to the other.

You can do it.

You know you can.

So, before you ask anyone ‘what are your thoughts’, ask yourself:

? What do I think?

? What am I trying to ask?

? What am I scared of?

And lastly ask yourself this...

What information do I need to make a decision?

? Only you can answer those questions.

And then guess what?

Only you can take the action.

Get it done.

Be bold,

Luke

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