I Had To Watch

by Chris Cantergiani on March 6th, 2023

Somewhere in the mid-2000s I stopped watching awards shows. Between Twitter updates and the morning news, I felt like I was saving a lot of time by catching the recap. I wasn't among the 17 million people watching the Oscars live last year when Will Smith assaulted Chris Rock on stage with the infamous slap. And I'm glad I wasn't watching when, roughly 40 minutes later, Will Smith received a standing ovation as the academy presented him with the Best Actor award. Since then Chris Rock has said very little about the matter other than a handful of jokes here and there and to say he's "still kind of processing it".

I didn't realize until reading this article over the weekend that Chris Rock has talked about being in therapy before, telling Gayle King on CBS Sunday Morning in 2021 (well before the Oscar incident) that he has done quite a bit of therapy over the years. It is refreshing to hear someone so famous talk about the benefits of talk therapy without stigma. He says he started doing so before the pandemic... up to 7 hours a week. I have been wondering how someone processes such a traumatic and mind-bogglingly public humiliation. Thankfully it sounds like he has a good foundation.

This past Saturday night, live on Netflix, Rock slapped back. In his “Selective Outrage” special, Rock talked about everything from yoga pants to the ‘White-Planet-of-The-Apes’ madness of the US Capitol riot. By the end, he dove fearlessly into last year’s Oscar night incident. He punctuates his thoughts with one of the greatest mic drops ever.

Satire has a long history, comedic writer Aristophanes from ancient Greece being among the first to jot humorous thoughts out in lines of a play. Comedians like Chris Rock and Dave Chapelle do more than just tickle our funny bone. What these next-level humorists are doing is important, because freedom of speech and freedom of expression are basic human rights. They are artists who have the talent and ability to challenge mainstream narratives and provide a unique perspective on social and political issues. If you’ve got a Netflix subscription, Rock’s special is well worth an hour of your time.

Now, on with this week’s Ohio EFT Newsletter:

I'm 53 Years Old. I'm 36 In My Head.

by Jennifer Senior on March 6th, 2023

I CAN NOT stop thinking about this article about “subjective age” from the Atlantic and the puzzling reason between how old you actually are and how old you feel. The author won the Pulitzer Prize in 2022 for Feature Writing, and her talent is on full display here because this essay is brilliantly written. If the link prompts you to sign up for a free trial, go for it if only to read Senior’s article. The question she explores, “How old do you think you are in Heaven?”, is something I want to work into every cocktail party conversation from now on.

Why Children Need Nurturing Fathers.

by Jennifer Breheny Wallace on March 6th, 2023

This may sound a little obvious, but it is worth highlighting: research shows that a strong paternal connection helps young people to manage their emotions and and deal with mental-health crises. Sociologists have found that warm, caring dads produce “the good father effect”, which acts as a protective buffer against the day-to-day challenges of life. This excellent Wall Street Journal essay dives deep and explores why fathers and children need to get the message that "being strong isn't about being invulnerable."

"Date Me, I'm In Therapy!”

by Dani Blum on February 20th, 2023

These days, prospective dating partners are nearly as likely to talk about “attachment styles” or a “gaslighting” ex as they are a shared love of cooking or travel. At a time where emotional maturity is highly desireable, everyone is “doing the work”. In this great read, The New York Times lays out how the language of therapy took over dating.

Ohio EFT’s Next Monthly Zoom Call - Friday, March 31st @ 9:00am (EST)

by Ohio EFT on March 6th, 2023

Join us at 9:00am on the last Friday in March for our continuing discussion about the 9 steps of EFT. We are now at the tail end of Stage 2 and will be talking about Step 7: Facilitating the expression of unmet needs and wants. I’ll have the link in our next newsletter.??

The Stars Of Dr. Sue Johnson's New Book Are Edgar & Elouise: A Crow And A Fox.

by FriesenPress on March 6th, 2023

I know you must be thinking you didn’t read that headline right. EFT pioneer Dr. Johnson wrote a book of fiction? Oh yes she did. Read the fascinating backstory here to learn how the book came about, and why it’s great for everyone age 9 to 90.??

HR Professionals Are Discussing This Unusual Idea For Employee Burnout.

by Kristen Parisi on March 6th, 2023

I’m hoping to work with clients who have been struggling with difficult workplaces, termination and burnout during my upcoming internship. I think it’s something millions of Americans need help processing. This article from HR Brew explains how some HR managers are leveraging empathy and an open mind when reviewing 'overqualified' job candidates. Hint: looking for less responsibility can actually be viewed as growth and development.

Fighting With A Sibling? Psychologists Discuss Making It Work Or Cutting Ties.

by Laura Williams on March 6th, 2023

“Sibling relationships are super complicated,” says Heide Horsley, PsyD and professor at Columbia University. Prince Harry just wrote the fastest selling non-fiction book of all-time about his long-time rivalry with his older brother William, Prince of Wales. If you and a sibling are in a similar squabble, here’s how experts recommend you move forward.

This Book Changed My Relationship To Pain: Podcast Episode.

by Ezra Klein on March 6th, 2023

"If the brain can change, pain can change," says pain psychologist Rachel Zoffness. She explains how pain is a “biopsychosocial phenomenon” - and how we can better treat it as such - in this hour-long podcast episode of The Ezra Klein Show.

Lacing Them Back Up Again? Returning To Running Is Easier Than You Think.

by Knvul Sheikh on March 6th, 2023

Back in 2017 the The Mayo Clinic wrote about how anxiety and depression symptoms often improve with exercise. If you’re thinking about getting back into running, or even giving it a try for the first time to see what the fuss is all about, this great New York Times article lays the groundwork for your legwork.?

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