I got called out in public for my 'perfect' elevator pitch. It was the best feedback I never asked for.

In my latest Canvas Rebel Magazine feature (yes, I'm honored to be back for round two!), I shared a story about receiving unexpected feedback that transformed my approach to leadership. It's the kind of moment that makes your stomach drop but changes everything.

Picture this: You're in a networking event, rehearsed pitch ready to go, when someone stops you mid-sentence and says "Hey, can I give you some feedback? Your pitch isn't working..."

Ugh, I felt sick.

This happened to me in my first year of business. There I was, focused on crafting the "perfect" presentation of myself, when a seasoned professional called me out in front of the group. My ego melted into a puddle on the floor.

But here's what I learned that day (and why I'm sharing it with you):

When we're trying to be perfect, we're not actually leading – we're performing.

Sound familiar? Maybe it shows up as:

• Rehearsing every team meeting opening
• Overthinking each email
• Second-guessing every decision
• Polishing your professional image until it barely resembles you

Here's the plot twist: This pursuit of perfection is actually creating more overwhelm. Every interaction becomes a performance, every decision a potential for failure, every piece of feedback a threat to your carefully constructed facade.

What changed everything for me? I put down the script.

Instead of showing up to events trying to prove my worth, I started showing up as a coach – listening, asking questions, making others feel heard. The result? As soon as I dropped the “act” and showed up as a coach, I landed a new client! Real connections. Actual impact. And ironically, more business than my "perfect" pitch ever attracted.

?? Quick Win: Next time you're preparing for a high-stakes moment, try this:

• Ask yourself: "What would I say/do if I wasn't trying to be perfect?"
• Focus on the other person's needs rather than your performance
• Share a relevant challenge you've faced (vulnerability builds trust)

A mentor once told me: "Your authenticity is more compelling than your perfection will ever be." He helped me see that feedback – even the public, ego-bruising kind – is just data for growth, not a judgment of worth.

Speaking of mentors who shape us... in my first Canvas Rebel feature, I shared how each of my past managers taught me crucial leadership lessons. [Read it here] Now, in my latest feature, I talk about how these experiences shaped my approach to authentic leadership. [Read it here]

?? Ready to explore how to lead more authentically and with less overwhelm? [Let's talk]

Because sometimes the best feedback is the kind we never asked for.

Here's to your authentic leadership,

Calle

P.S. Which feels heavier: being perfect or being yourself? I'd love to hear your thoughts.