I give tough love, here is why.
In business and in life: sometimes you must exercise tough love so that your employees or co-workers learn how to do things for themselves. The worst thing you can to a person is do things for them. You must avoid trying to remove people's opportunity to learn. Allow them to do the work and guide them towards doing better. What I have learned over the years is that when you do things for people (including your co-workers or people you manage)...they not only do not learn, but they also become dependent, expect that you will do things for them, and start feeling entitled.
Tough love is the best kind of love, when needed.
Hands on, boots on the ground, logical application! Roll up the sleeves and get the hands dirty! Internal Audit/ Corporate Executive
3 年While I appreciate the gist of this, it may be useful for the author to also carefully consider the suggested format in which this tough love is to be administered. An unaware observer will be inclined to perceive the image depicting harshness or frowning and consequently associate this concept with the negative emotional disposition that accompany those expressions. Reprimand and tough love need not be necessarily harsh tone expressions that essentially ridicule and provoke shame. In fact, harsh treatment of another signals to me an inability to be aware of one's own reaction to situations that require mindful action. There are soft approaches that also constitute tough love, so the depiction in the post above is quite rudimentary.