I EXPECT you to NOT read this Newsletter.
Alex ?stergaard
Master your Mindset | Helping you gain clarity and confidence so you can stop doubting yourself and live a life that truly fulfils you. Self-Confidence & Inner-Freedom Coach ??
I EXPECT you to stop reading right now.
Notice the feeling in your body when you read that sentence.
Did it impact your desire to keep reading??
Did part of you want to rebel against this expectation??
Expectations lead to 2 things only:
So by living a life filled with expectations, you will either be bored all the time or constantly disappointed.
To make things worse, people rebel when things are expected of them.?
By expecting something from someone, you make it less likely to happen.
You are actually chasing it away.
But if you have zero expectations…
…the only thing that’s possible is a pleasant surprise. And who doesn’t love a pleasant surprise?
But what's the alternative you may ask??
How do we get anything done without expectations??
Well the answer lies in creating Agreements.
An agreement is something that is co-created and works for everyone. When you create an agreement, both parties are involved and therefore feel the power and personal responsibility to fulfil it.
Creating agreements allows us to stop resenting people for not living up to our expectations.?
It makes us take responsibility for the outcomes we wish to create in our lives.
Agreements are creative, they require negotiation and are constructed together.
And while people will rebel against expectations, they will go a long way to keep an agreement.?
In general, Human Beings don’t like to break their word.
So next time you don’t like a situation, ask yourself: “Do I have a certain expectation about it?” and if so: “How could I create an agreement that would change it?”.
Let go of expectations, create agreements and take responsibility for your own happiness, energy levels and health.
Much love,
Alex
PS: What I’m reading: How to Stop Time - Matt Haig
What I’m watching: Shantaram - Apple TV?
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1 年Haha good one Alex ?stergaard
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1 年Love this James Clear Quote of the week, Alex:: "Praise others. It will bring them peace of mind. Do not expect others to praise you. It will bring you peace of mind."
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1 年Alex ?stergaard my first thought was "F YOU! I am going to read every word!" and then my second was how insightful it is. Expectations are often unmet because they are largely unspoken. An agreement has to be discussed and thus is all on the table. Really awesome approach.