I don't have a surname!
The day I was born, my father was clear about the idea of never putting a surname after my name, hence my name was registered as "Simran" in all the official and legal documents, which remains to be the same till day. When I grew up, I noticed people would always assume my last name by looking at my father's last name, and put my surname on my documents. I always had to request a new document and tell people to not put my surname, and after one point of time I was tired of getting my name corrected every time and every where. This was when I questioned my father that why would he not let me write my surname officially according to the general norms everyone follows, and his response left me awestruck and proud of being born in his home.
He told me that he never wanted me to be recognized by my father's or husband's name, and wanted me to be recognized by one single identity of my own, all my life, that is "Simran". He would tell me the stories of how he had to get my mother's surname changed on her documents, just because she turned into a wife from being a daughter, and that all a woman do is keep juggling between the surnames all her life. If there will be no surname, there will be nothing that will have to be changed. A woman is much more than her surname, he would tell me.
The day I understood his point of view and how excellently he thinks, I knew that even if I will have to get my name corrected a thousand times at a thousand places, I will proudly do that.
But till today, I haven't been able to understand that how do people just assume a surname when it has not been mentioned anywhere on my documents. If I have mentioned my full name as "Simran" then who gave you the right to assume that I would have forgotten to mention my last name? Is any person this stupid to forget mentioning their whole name in a professional/official or legal space?
Also it is so disturbing to see that these huge world-wide spread platforms like LinkedIn and Facebook, keep the last name column as a mandatory one. LinkedIn is a professional platform and I wonder how never did the people behind it realize that this is a major flaw that they have been constantly overlooking.
While this world proudly claims to be changing, there are so many minute details the majority isn't even aware of. I almost everyday make people realize that how stupid they are to assume someone's name following the general norms. I am glad I am a part of a major change.
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