I don’t have a mother….

a mix of sporadic reasoning and emotions towards a mother…

we are all born out of a mother…

it’s just not a body that we originate out of…we start, we learn sounds hearing them, then some noise, and soon her voice... her tone that becomes the music to our ears. We see colors and objects without knowing what they are. The mother soon teaches us to learn and to express, to ask & to say…?

We learn to get what we want by crying and frowning. The mother is also learning your language so she can teach you what you need to learn. The mother sees it all and, we see from her and learn, and learn, and learn... and yes, everything seems new to her and to you. That’s some of what a mother can be to us!

Yes, the father is often less spoken about. What we learn from the father, the silent teacher he is. He shows us the meanings of virtues, values and principles of living and life. The discipline and the doer he is, he displays the strength and courage of just going out to do whatever it takes to provide, to secure and show us that its indeed real, that what the mother teaches. Yes, the mother stays awake and vigilant lest no harm comes to you, setting standards and letting you explore those values & virtues displayed by the father. In all this, the mother is the first teacher, the continuing teacher, the conscience keeper of all her children. So many consciences to take care of, too many virtues & values to be imbibed, yet not missing out on all the children she cares for. So what if there is some disparity, some omissions and some untouched areas? Be liberal and give her the benefit of being the mother she is, to all her children. After all she is ensuring your good and managing those little things for you – waking you up, your breakfast, your shower & hygiene during your formative years… and care & concern for those after years…She is a Mother!

what a wholesome teacher!

a mature mentor, a coach and a perfect lifetime guide. In all, she is your conscience keeper and your soul for your wellbeing.

Yet over the years of growing up the regard and reverence diminishes, slowly deteriorating on the importance of the mother in your life. The mother is subdued in our emotions and priorities change … she is no longer a priority to you, neither a need, she is neither wanted or considered in your day-to-day of you living life. So much of her we take her for granted because we have grown to step into our new world, with different arena of friends, new teachers, and a few new strangers who come into our life bearing different titles and names. Yet the teacher-mother doesn’t stop her teaching… its mostly we who opt to stop learning from her.

Her lessons seem boring… Her teachings seem obsolete & irrelevant to your current world! Her repeated attempt to motivate & inspire your life seems like a nagging and, the feeling of someone breathing down your throat is inevitable to your age. You soon start to feel claustrophobic in her different forms of care and concern that she often displays – she’s will always be your Mother!

our new world!

The new people who teach you newer things adding new meaning to your life seems the all-important influencers in your life. Yet the mother remains a silent spectator and always your well-wisher. The mother stays on as mothers do and, the attempt to teach you something new, hoping that someday in your journey of life the learning might come of use to you. Her irreplaceable concern to teach clubbed with a little bit of her adamance, would have made life a little difficult to us. To her, you should learn from her because, only she can be your Mother!

gone for ever!

Just as you grapple between want and, want to be, in your life, without a word the mother is gone and then the sudden sadness creeps into your life. Her teachings tend to reminiscent into your conscious mind and you now attempt to re-learn only to the extent of that, this little much that is recalled! Yet it all makes so much of sense, because in this learning there are so many emotions and memories attached. Learning is at its best when emotional reasoning is attached to that learning.

The recall of the values and virtues she taught you by being an example or using the father as a symbol of idealism comes back to you stinging you in your face and staring back. As you watch your mother fade away in the mist of memories so sweet but, not lived to the fullest. You start to question yourself, why mother did I not listen when you were teaching? Now that I want to learn from you, the teacher of you can only stare in awe from above.?You are my Mother!

the greatest teacher!

As we recall the analogies she used, the subtle meaning she tried to convey to you, to make things so simple, so her child understands what she is teaching, ensuring that you don’t miss the learning, sometimes teaching you over and over again.?How profound it seems now and, with immeasurable depth in every single word she taught. The greatest teacher of our life will no longer be…the Mother!

Should we have waited this long till she passed away from our lives forever? Should we have postponed our learning from her and, now that we want to learn, she’s no more around there to teach.

Mother Oh Mother, ?the only eternal teacher from YOUR pre-birth until HER heavenly abode. When we are reminded of our mother, her voice, her tone, her teaching, how she corrected us even when she knew that you would be hurt or hit big on your ego, yet she, Is the Mother! The memory of her so everlasting to every being, to every minute.?

make the best of your mother!

spend more time (not when you have some to spare) but make time for her – she always made time for you! Show that you care and, care that you can show – this means the world to her! She will be listening to the meaning of your thousand words that you show without a spoken word…because that is a Mother!

The separation & loss is indeed the incomprehensible loss due of her final separation from you! The vacuum is perpetual and irreplaceable. A Mother is always a mother, she is a mother – the best teacher, the friend, your first doctor and the only one who wishes, hopes and prays for your best and wants to see the best OF you and, ?the best IN you!

Cherish her…Thank her…. Love her endlessly and seamlessly….because when she is gone….She is Gone!

Show her that its sometimes also your turn to give back to her and sometimes more than what you received – all in return for her time she put into you to shape you into what & who you are. You have nothing but your TIME to give her as a gift in this lifetime…?

Let that time you spend with her be 'moments' & 'cherished memories', before it transforms into memories that cannot be relived. Look around and don’t wait for Mother’s Day, an occasion or a reason to show that you care and that you Love her as the most beautiful person. Make an excuse to surprise her, be with her and talk to her, listen to her talk. She wants to share her world with you. After all she is one who brought you into this world without any expectations but to simply breathe life into you, take care of you, protect you and love you endlessly…

If you have an opportunity now, call her now! meet her now! text her now! surprise her now! always, anytime, every time! Create an excuse, an occasion or a reason… She will tolerate you...She is your Mother!

where is my Mother? ?

I no more have a mother to cry for and cry about... She might be around, though I don’t see her anymore!

in cherished fond memory of My Mother – my greatest teacher, a friend and my most reliable strenght! - she lives on as my Mother!