I can't be me in this world!

I think feeling like I can't be me in this world is at the root of a lot of people's emotional, and psychological issues. When we are born, when we come into this life, we are absolutely more or less very connected with our true selves.?We're like babies. As holistic consciousnesses, we are very aware of who we are. And then, all too often, the world does not accept us for who we are. The world expects us to be uniform, without an iota of uniqueness.?The world wants us to conform to their idea of who we should be.

It starts with parents. For eg parents, they could have a son or a daughter and then they want that child to be an ideal representation of their gene pool. So they'll elicit certain behaviors and reward those behaviours. Parents who are extremely?academically oriented, they will want their child to immediately start pointing out colors and alphabets and say words. Someone who's a little more creatively inclined would want a child to immediately start kind of drawing and dancing, like playing music, etc.

So often, it begins with our parents, who tell us who we should be before we can even explore who we are as original beings. And then from parents, there is school and teachers, and finally friends. And as you progress through life, from teachers and friends to partners, spouses, boyfriends, girlfriends, and so on, you will eventually have children. And it just goes on and on. Then there's work, colleagues, and bosses.?It's just a never-ending?process.

Everyone expects you to be a certain way, which may or may not be how you were designed. And for many people, this is the source of their deep sadness.?What exactly is this world? I can't even be myself.

For me even now, going into large public gatherings and having to present myself in a certain way, like wearing makeup and doing my hair and wearing corporate clothes or something, is very unnatural.?That is not my personality. Most of the time, I'm dressed in linen pants and cotton T-shirts, with wild hair and crystals. But I'm not sad about it. I know I only have to do this to meet people where they are.?However, many people aren't even aware that they are forcing themselves into another person's reality.?And as a result, they are losing touch with their essence, with their true self, and creating a lot of these fake personalities, which are inherently lies. Every fake persona, every false persona you create is taking you further and further away from who you truly are.?And the more you live your life like that, the more sadness and anger you'll feel. And that sadness and anger come from a deep place of feeling like you can't be yourself in this world.

How do you fix that?

You really begin to understand who you are. That is why inner work and shadow work are so important because you must begin to go deeper within yourself to understand who you are. Once you understand who you truly are, you will be able to tell whether you are presenting yourself in the moment as your true original self or as something that the world wants you to be.

So first, know who you are before you say, I can't be me. Who are you? What is your unique essence? What is it that you want to be? What are the things you love doing?

And then start looking at the world around you. The people in your life aren't really creating space for you to be who you are. Maybe you need to step away from these people and find other people. See, we are an interconnected species. We can't live in isolation. We can't just plan of like going off to Himalayas and running away there and living there. We have to integrate with other human beings and use them as reflections and mirrors of our own journey. So other people are important. We are supposed to connect and integrate with each other and be part of something bigger than just one single human being. But if the people in your life are continuously rejecting your essence in who you are, then you need to move away from those people and find other people. So that's the work of a warrior. And that journey can only start when you truly undertake the journey of finding your inner goal. So figure out who you are, find who you are, and then start making sure the reality around you is a reflection of who you are.

If you also feel?"I can't be me in this world" you can write back to me by simply replying to this newsletter. I can surely help you.

Feel Alive! Vibe High my fellow Humans

With much Love,

Mugdha Pradhan

Founder & CEO

iTHRIVE