I Am Scared of Success

I Am Scared of Success

Yes, I really am.

A friend asked me a while ago, “Ayo, are you scared of success or failure?”

With so much confidence, I answered, “I am scared of failure".

But that wasn’t the truth. It was a convenient, globally-accepted answer, not my reality.

Over the next few months, I came to realize that I was never scared of failure—because nobody sets out to fail. Instead, I was scared of success. This was a hard realization to swallow.


After deep reflection, I discovered that I’ve been unconsciously self-sabotaging through;

  • Procrastination
  • Giving up easily
  • Doing things only when convenient
  • Feeling like an imposter and more

These behaviours are indicators of a fear of success.

As someone who advocates for breaking out of comfort zones, I realized that at the root of this fear is the fear of the unknown.

Can I handle success? Will I have to say goodbye to my friends? Will I be lonely?

These questions kept haunting me.


So, I turned to a friend we all know—Google.

“Hey Google, tell me more about the fear of success".

Thanks to Google, I found ways to overcome this fear. Check the comments for a helpful article and share your thoughts. Here are some ways:

  • Acknowledge the fear
  • Journaling
  • Identify past patterns (e.g., starting projects excited but later abandoning them)
  • Define what ‘success’ means to you (it could be an award, financial freedom, etc.)
  • Visualize success
  • Practice self-care and positive self-talk
  • Talk to God about it


Success shouldn’t be a fear; it should be celebrated. Do you resonate with any of these feelings? Let's chat in the comments.

If you found this helpful, share it with someone today.

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Nadia B.

Here to Inspire || Graduate Student || Biosystems Engineering || Sustainability Advocate || ASO-Okstate Vice-President || SC Sun Grant Fellow ‘24

8 个月

Great piece!

Pelumi Oladipo

Tech Community Manager || Tech UGC Creator || Content & Social Media Manager

8 个月

Happy Sunday Ayo??

Okeoghene Adelola, ACA

Expert Accounting & Tax Advisory consultant - I streamline your financial operations to enhance your efficiency & boost your revenue|| Data Entry|| Inventory Management

8 个月

We fear the unknown because we are not sure if we'll succeed or fail

Ayooluwa (Joy) Akande??

Founder of A.B.C of Money & ARTE by Tife | Financial literacy is not a luxury for a select few, it can literally change your life | Host of 'The Freedom' Podcast | God’s girl

8 个月

Check out this detailed article on the fear of success. Let’s chat! https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-fear-of-success-5179184

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