I am real, because I am full of imperfections!

First, let us accept that the past is over, and it does not exist anymore in real terms other than your memories about it and the judgements you carry about it. How you evaluate what you did in the past is a matter of choice. You can feel guilty or regretful, or you can accept what has happened as stepping stones leading you to a better place today. That everyone has done things in the past they would do differently today if they knew then what they know now. How you choose to evaluate and judge yourself for your past is a matter of making a decision on how you view yourself.

I am as I am today in real terms and am full of mistakes and imperfections. Our approach is to forgive yourself for whatever happened in the past first. You can do that by repeating the statement, “I forgive myself for what happened.” It would also help to say specifically what happened. Self-forgiveness is not condoning anything, it is merely a method of releasing yourself so you can move on. It is most effective if repeated numerous times over several days. As you do any form of release you will find other memories rise to the surface and you will want to address them as they do.

Another method to be considered is utilising the 'relaxation-visualisation' technique to re-contextualise what occurred earlier. In this case, you would just sit back, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and ask the memories of what happened to come to the surface. Let the scene play out the way you remember it happening. Recall all your feelings, reactions, and conclusions about what happened in the past. Assert to yourself and say, “Cancel.” (You may want to repeat that a few times) to be sure. This method works at a subconscious level and is a method of transforming a negative event from the past into a neutral or more acceptable one for now.

We all know that failures are not a full stop or a life sentence ,they make you do better ,and get a firm footing for your further growth and development. I have had too many imperfections in my life before and now I am as an experienced person full of mistakes and my imperfect past to face the world today. Now I happily accept what you cannot change, control or reverse . I am enjoying what I get and have ,everything is a gift ,everything will change and pass. Being assertive of my present as well as being mindful helps me in recovering from my past stupor into the current alive state of mind and I am fully responsible for my actions what I am doing today.

You never know actually, what you think as imperfect today, may contain some perfect things for you, if you really look with love and one failure may be intended to correct the course of your life then to do the right thing. Change your self talk, challenge the negatives , look intently, agree that all things are now only beautiful, but it all depends on the angle of your view now and for the future references your current state of positive mindset is what matters.

Now that I am in acceptance mode of my life, I kick myself as much as the time allows. Post meltdown, I negotiate with myself. I tell myself I will learn from it and next time around do it the right way. Some instances which are not that important, like falling down while walking provides much needed humour. I can laugh at myself and accept as being complete idiot at times.

I am a human after all and I am real. Sometimes however the mind just gets stuck. Like nasty food bits stuck in your cavities. No matter how much you much floss it doesn’t come out. You bleed trying to get rid of it, and yet it is there as a constant nuisance and nagging your tongue to take it out. Learn to live with this imperfections and mistakes what stuck with you and struck you badly. Now you are a smarter and more reformed person and you are strong enough to accept yourself as you are.

Therefore forgiveness requires more than mere words. It has to mean, knowing what you now know, given the opportunity again that your actions would be otherwise. If you would do the same deed, you aren’t sorry for having done it in the first place. To be gentle and forgiving with your past and accept yourself for who you are this moment, a spiritual being having another life experience altogether. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre