I am but a piece of you…and everyone I ever met
All of us eventually expose ourselves to many realities around us.
We meet people, see places and fall in situations which are new or unique to us alone.
And after all we cant deny that we are monkeys, we have mirror neurons jumping in our heads wanting to reflect whatever we see. The unique thing is that we always reflect the world in our own way. We borrow from the world its behaviors and things we understand but we do so using our own unique composition that we have created over time. This starts with our very own parents. Not only are they conscious role models due to the demonstrated acts that they put up in front of us as parents to build our so called good habits. But also every action that parents do eventually ends up being something we absorb.
Eventually our unique self exists, yes it very much does, but not as a standalone piece originating from us, but as an amalgamation of all those selves that we saw around us. The reason i call these reflections as other selves is because they need not be actually the same as the other person. Most of the times its the perception of that person, place or situation that’s etched in our heads which guides us. Hence our perception matters, and at times correcting our perceptions about others matters too. Not because we are doing a noble thing by understanding the other person accurately as the person would like to be understood. But because it shapes how we think of our own self, how we eventually become.
We need to be consciously aware that we are but the amalgamation of the reflection of others, we are what others around us do behave. And we are yet unique because each of our amalgamations are unique and hence the understanding of the other is unique in its own sweet way.
So the old phrase is true, choose your company wisely. Not a company that just mirrors your behavior, neither a company that just opposes your behavior. But a balance of unique reflections, because believe it or not, you are a mixed superimposed reflection of everyone you ever met…
Design Generalist
2 年Beautifully written ??
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2 年Loved it Amit Patil
Associate Vice President (Level-3) - Product Management at SBI Life Insurance Co. Ltd. (Posts and views are purely personal)
2 年Hope we turn up like this... Good parts from everyone... adding more to our life .. Good piece Amit Patil
Cooking something interesting. Ex : Product Leader @ Microsoft | Leadership at the intersection of People, Product, and Engineering | Enterprise, Startups
2 年Lovely reflection Amit.
Such deep reflection Amit Patil! I often think of myself as a sponge, and while that’s probably something that made us choose the careers we chose, the flip side is that we also are susceptible to absorbing negativity as well. All the more reason to be aware of the superpower and it’s dark side!