I am not giving FEEDBACK, because..

Based on the coaching sessions that I have conducted with leaders and the knowledge gained from corporate trainings, I would like to share with you the reasons regarding why we avoid giving feedback, or in other words, "the dialogue that evaluates attitudes in the workplace for the purpose of reaching a compromise", as defined ideally. My aim is for you to recognize the reasons that resonates with you. This way, you can seize the opportunity for specific development action. Once the reason is found, the solution is already there. If you find it difficult to give feedback, how would you complete the following statement...?

I can't give feedback because...

? I avoid conflict: Some people avoid giving feedback because they fear it may lead to conflict or confrontation. They may prefer to avoid uncomfortable situations and maintain harmony in relationships.

? My communication skills are inadequate: Giving feedback effectively requires good communication skills. Some people avoid giving feedback because they are not confident in how to express their thoughts and feelings constructively.

? I fear damaging our relationship: The person giving feedback may have concerns about how the recipient will react. Fear of hurting someone's feelings or damaging the relationship can deter people from giving feedback.

? It won't make a difference even if I do: In some cases, people may believe that giving feedback will not lead to any positive change. They may feel that the recipient will not listen to the feedback or change their behavior based on it.

? Speaking negatively is a bad approach: Cultural norms and expectations regarding giving feedback can also play a role. In some cultures, direct criticism is not well received, which can lead people to avoid giving feedback.

? I don't have time for it. It feels difficult for me to make that effort: Giving feedback requires careful thought and evaluation, so it requires time and effort. Some people avoid giving feedback simply because they do not prioritize it or do not want to invest the necessary time and energy.

? It's not for me: Giving feedback can be emotionally challenging, especially when it involves addressing sensitive issues or providing negative feedback. Some people avoid giving feedback to avoid their own discomfort.

? I'm afraid of being misunderstood: People may be uncertain about the impact their feedback will have. They may fear that their feedback will be misunderstood or lead to unwanted consequences.

Understanding these reasons can help individuals overcome barriers to giving feedback and communicate more effectively in various contexts.

Which of these apply to you?

Gamze Acar Bayraktaro?lu EIA, Master Executive Coach-Team Coach-Leadership Trainer