How to Be Your True Self?

"Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself, and the right people will love the real you." – Anonymous

Being your authentic self takes guts. It means standing strong and not listening to the stuff others think or say about you. But even though you might try plugging your ears to avoid others' comments, how can you mute the sound that plays between your two ears??

Well, I have a secret for you. You can never be good enough for others. You can never remove all of the criticism directed at you.

So, why try to be someone that you are not deep inside? Why accept the role that is given to you by others? To only make some (and nowhere near all) people happy?

When you are young, you want to be accepted, included, and a part of something. You crave belonging. And it is okay to feel that way until you find your path. But eventually, with age and experience, your attention shifts toward more self-fulfillment rather than fulfilling other people's expectations.

You realize that life is too precious to live with someone else’s rules and priorities. And if it means ending a personal or business relationship to honor your true self, then so be it. As soon as the light bulb switches on in your head, you see that there is no way to feel satisfied with the life you live inside the box assigned to you.

Everything starts with getting to know yourself.

After accomplishing some of the main steps of life, such as; completing education, getting a job, starting a family, buying a house, and raising your kids for them to become adults themselves, you turn around and look at yourself. And things get tricky from that point on because that action triggers so many questions.

Who am I? What do I want? What is my purpose in life? I do not like some parts of my life. So, how can I make a meaningful change? Questions, questions, questions. Frustrating questions without answers - at first. Then, exploring yourself further opens a brand new perspective about who you are.

And along the way, you decide that you want to pursue a new lifestyle. But wanting and doing are two different things. What will people say when they find out that you decided with such a monumental impact on your life? Are you going to be able to ignore them?

Yes, you can, and you will!

But how? Here is how:

• Aim for what you want to achieve and strive for that accomplishment.?
• Stop being negative about yourself.
• Understand that this is?your?life, and you are the sole owner of your decisions.
• Be confident with who you are.
• Do not try to please others.
• Quit worrying about how they see you.
• Appreciate who you are.
• Act on your goals to become the new you - whom you want to be.
• Remember, this life is playing just once, with no possible reruns.

You came to this world to enjoy yourself and your time here. Not to suffer and simply survive. Make it yours.

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TEDx Video of the Week: Embracing your authentic self by Jennifer Gillivan. ICD.D

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