HOW YOUR BELIEFS BECOME REALITY
Carmen López Hernández
CEO at Carmen López | LEADERSHIP & STRESS EXPERT: Do you want to succeed as a leader? Do you need to reduce your stress?| PSYCHOLOGIST | Executive Psychologist | Human Resources Consultant?? German-English-Spanish.
In 1980, Dr. Robert Cleck, a psychologist at Dartmouth College, devised an interesting experiment:
He recruited 24 female students, and one by one, a professional makeup artist painted large, realistic scars on their faces. After the makeup was applied, each student was given a small mirror to see the scar.
Once they had seen their reflection, the makeup artist told them he would apply moisture to the scar to prevent it from cracking. In reality, he removed the scar entirely.
The students then went to an interview with their faces unaltered, though they believed they still had a disfiguring scar.
After the interview, the students reported feeling judged and discriminated against because of the facial scars they didn’t actually have.
This experiment demonstrates how false beliefs about ourselves shape our lives: We approach many interactions with unfounded fears. In turn, we behave in ways that reflect those false beliefs, which undermines the outcome of those interactions.
If you think that they won’t like you, you will enter an interaction defensive or even aggressive. As a result, they will effectively ending up not liking you. This is how self-fulfilling prophecies are created.
Next time you have an important interaction, use the power of self-belief to reverse this experiment. Dress well. Mind your posture. Smile. Relax. Before entering the conversation, envision a positive image of yourself. Focus on your strengths, skills, experience, and successes. Think of the people who already like and appreciate you. Consider the value you bring to others.
Now, relax and expect the best. You’ll significantly increase the chances of having a memorable conversation.
And who knows? You might land a new job, a promotion, a friend, or even a partner.
Carmen López. Business Psychology
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5 个月Thank you for this article. When I first started horse riding, my trainer said that if someone tells you they've never fallen off a horse, it means one of two things. Either they have never ridden or they are lying. She also said something else that if you are worried about falling off, then you will. At the time, I didn't understand how these two adages went together. Your article gives the answer. Yes we need self-worth and belief in our own potential and a belief that we can reach our goal, albeit realistic. But this does not negate that sometimes we miss the mark, this doesn't mean failure, it means we have to examine how this happened and to see how to correct ourselves on the next opportunity. Never to loose our self-esteem.
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6 个月Thank you very much Carmen López Hernández this is exactly what I need yo read to day ????
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6 个月Useful as always. Happy Monday, Carmen
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6 个月Another difficulty is rejection. If someone is subjected to a barrage of rejections, it will affect their state of mind.
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6 个月Our brain perceives certain realities as true- we need to make sure that we don't imagine something which is not real and can harm us. Thanks for sharing this study!