Is This How You Show Love?

With Saint Valentine’s Day approaching, it seems like it always causes people to ponder about what they have in life compared to how it matches up in reality. In fairness, everyone’s situation is different and what it means for one person to show love for one person…may be very differently from how another person chooses to show their love for another person.

This is especially true when it comes to married spouses who made a commitment together along the lines of “for better or worse, in sickness and in health, until death do us part”…or whatever the different social and cultural alternatives are for two people making a commitment to share and show their love for each other…and not just on Saint Valentine’s Day. This should be part of a daily commitment and especially during tough and challenging times whether that be family related, financially related, job related, and especially health related.

I can especially relate to the health side of things given the health problems I started facing after I returned to the U.S. from underwater videography training in Cozumel, Mexico in July 2022 just before my father passed away. Shortly after I returned back to Poplar Ridge Road, Aurora, NY, my health took a major decline.

As I have mentioned previously, I have been a patient at Roswell Park Comprehensive Cancer Center shortly after I was married around the end of November 2022 due to my seriously declining and unexplained health issues that still are not fully explained nor how I was able to bring back my health besides the fact I moved away from Poplar Ridge, Aurora, NY. I have been openly sharing information about my health situation in hopes that my experience and lifestyle choices to manage my health may help other people as well.

I attribute a big piece of staying healthy, despite the symptoms I experience but manage fine, to the support of family and friends while I am out on the road traveling.

There is no question that staying busy and very active is a key point in maintaining my health and managing my symptoms. Since I was a kid, I have also always given the power of music to help give strength, peace, and comfort.

That being said, given the diagnosis I have been given with two autoimmune diseases, but no cancer diagnosis still…I often wonder how people would view other people who showed their love in different ways as mentioned at the beginning of this article?

I personally know of a situation (names withheld to protect the guilty) of a friend-of a- friend…say another Gypsy…who also had similar very serious and unexplained health conditions. He showed me how his spouse showed him her love and how she was cared for him as his loving wife.

This poor Gypsy was freaked out enough about his declining health due to the love his spouse was showing him and the fact his doctors were still trying to figure things out…that he signed a notarized letter giving his health care proxy permission to perofrm an autopsy on him upon his death. This was a big deal because the idea of having an autopsy performed previously was coming up against some of his spiritual beliefs, however, given the circumstances, an autopsy authorization letter was notarized and signed.

I had to stop him after he started telling me about the threats he received about having the ashes of his deceased dog stolen by his wife’s ex-husband and daughter in order to perform some sort of rituals or something…it was starting to get bizarre.

BUT talk about showing some love to your spouse!

This article can be found on my Substack Newsletter: "Is This How You Show Love?"