How You Are Sabotaging Your Divorce

It is no secret that the divorce process is incredibly difficult and often heartbreaking. When times get tough, otherwise-rational minded people can overreact, or act in a way that proves detrimental to the process. We know how overwhelming the entire process is, so we have highlighted a few behaviors to be aware of when you are navigating the rough waters of divorce.

They are:

Watch Your Words

As the old adage goes,”If you cannot say something nice, do not say anything at all.” With the ease of today’s modern technology, you never know when your ex is recording your interactions. It is very common to have recorded conversations brought out during divorce proceedings, and if you have spoken harshly -- out of frustration or anger -- your words can be used against you in the future. 

Getting Physical

Always keep your hands to yourself. If you make physical contact against your soon-to-be spouse, particularly if it is harmful or aggressive, you are committing a crime. The physical interaction may be considered battery or assault, both of which will prove detrimental for your case. No matter how upset you get throughout the divorce process, you will never have a judge side with you if you are physical with the other person.

Moving Too Fast

Refrain from moving too fast into a new relationship. Aside from allowing yourself time to heal, moving in with a new boyfriend or girlfriend before the divorce is finalized is frowned upon. Children have a difficult time when their parents go through a divorce. It is hard for them to understand that their parents no longer love each other in the same way, and that they will no longer be living together as a family. Moving in with a significant other only adds insult to injury, where time can provide everyone the chance to settle and move forward.

Child Support

No matter how angry you are at your spouse, failing to pay child support ultimately hurts the child and, in turn, your divorce. The law demands child support is paid; failing to do so is considered contempt of court. If the judge finds you are in contempt, you can be fined or put in jail.  

Removing Your Child

If you have a planned trip away, it is necessary to coordinate the dates and travel with your spouse. It will be viewed as an attempt at kidnapping if you leave the area with your child without making a prior arrangement with your ex. It is also likely your restricted visitation with the child, or your custody, will be terminated.

It is important to consult with a professional divorce attorney to determine the behaviors you should, and should not, undertake while filings and proceedings are underway. When it doubt, remember it is better to be safe than to be sorry.