How Are You REALLY Doing?

So How Are You REALLY Doing?

I watch in amazement how people (both men and women) wear the masks of their egos. Ask them, "How are you doing?' and "I'm fine!" "Doing Awesome!" and "Live'n the dream." are common responses. I get it as I too have been guilty of it.?

The truth is, these days most people are going through their own personal hell at some level or another. They're hurting, they're struggling and they're worn out and beaten by a world that feels like it's against them. The sad part is, that they do not realize that the world is not against anything...it's the ego keeping them small and in that "Hell".?

As men, we tend to not want to burden another with our challenges or be perceived as "less-than", weak or not in control so we fake our reality with them. This feels easier for both parties if we just keep it on the surface.

I have a question for you: Have you ever met someone that does not give a shit about what people think of them?

They are so comfortable with who they are that they just tell it like it is regardless of how it lands. For some people hearing one speak their truth can be uncomfortable.

"I can't believe they said that!" is a common response or thought. We judge them as strange or ballsy. Now I am not talking about being vulgar or gross, I am talking about being real, authentic, and as transparent as you can be when expressing your world. The truth is, when men hear someone speak authentically, there is a sense of respect and admiration for it.

Yes, we may feel uncomfortable, but at our core, we want to be able to be free to be authentic too! I know I sure feel it when I hear it because in truth it is so rare!

My Brothers, you know how fast things are changing. If you do not begin to express your thoughts, purpose, and passion you are going to get left behind!

This is a no-bullshit story!

You have to start getting comfortable about talking about the uncomfortable. Holding back your authentic expression (as men do)?can be causing your relationships to unwind, your role as Dad to be diminished, your career(s) to falter and your health to suffer.

How long are you going to continue to be walked on, or suppress your pain before you have had enough and you react in a way that destroys any hope of being heard or moving forward?

This is a challenge for many men. They hold it all in and then explode with disastrous and sometimes tragic results.

Being a Remarkable Man is about owning where you are at and taking full responsibility for it. Nothing outside of you is causing the crap in your life! Nothing (No-Thing). This is the most important aspect of being an authentic man that I want to get across to you.

When you express your truth, you do it from a place of full ownership. No blame!

Ouch! How's that landing for you?

Be mindful of your audience and how well you know them. If it is just a casual or business acquaintance and they ask,

"How are you doing?"

Answer them authentically without the mask. If you are doing great, then awesome! Talk about why things are going so well for you. If your life is the shits...then say,

"You know what, I have manifested some interesting challenges lately. I am feeling a little overwhelmed right now...perhaps if you have time later I'd like to get your perspective."

If it is a close friend or family member...get real and fast! Say something like,

"I'm going through the shit of my own F'ing creation and it is messing me up! I seem to be dealing with stuff from my past and I'm not getting the lessons...do you have some time to talk? I could use a friend about now."

Always ask for permission to express your inner world. Everyone has their own dramas and challenges and if you freight-train yours into their world, they will not see your realness and authenticity as a strength or as courageous, but rather as a victim and needy. The very thing a man wants to stay away from.

Expressing your truth is not always easy, because, in the end, it is your truth and no one else's.

The question is; how good are you at getting your intended audience to listen?

By owning your truth, your crap, and your circumstances, you open the door to an enriching and engaging dialogue that could result in getting you everything you could ever desire.

A warning: If you go to the core with another, you have to do it from a place of realness and acceptance of what they may reflect back. You may not always like what you hear, but own it anyway. Stay the course that it is about you and not about blaming others. When you are in this place then you have control over how you can implement solutions in your life.

Be a Remarkable Man in your communication...without the mask. Your sense of self, personal growth, and happiness depend on it!

So how are you REALLY doing?

Remember; You are not alone on the journey, Brother...I've got your back!

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Dwayne H. Klassen

Coaching Kings To Be Kings.

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