How are you framing it?
??Michael Bungay Stanier
Helping change leaders find the good stuff that works (pod & newsletter). I'm best known for 'The Coaching Habit' ... the best-selling book on coaching this century. Also, a Rhodes Scholar.
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This piece of art sits right in front of my desk.
Which means I’d stopped noticing it.
But as I sit here, a couple of months into the new year, reflecting on how things are unfolding, considering how I want to navigate the next little while, writing in my journal (yes, the one that came out in January!) and answering the daily question, “What do you notice?†… well, there it was.
Right in front of me.
What do you think is going on?
I love it for two reasons.
First, because it’s both rough and delicate. It’s old metal, with figures made (I think) from soldering iron. It’s a bit rusty, a bit battered, but somehow also precise and timeless.
Second, because the two figures are beautifully and ambiguously balanced.
Are they wrestling, or are they dancing?
Are they embracing, or are they turning away from each other?
Are they loving or fearful?
领英推è
The piece is called “Wrestling.â€
But mostly, I see dancing.
How about you?
Language shapes our experience
I’ve been working on a new project.
It’s been exciting and also hard work. So, in other words, the best kind. It’s ticked the boxes of a Worthy Goal: thrilling, important, and daunting.
What’s helped during the hard times has been choosing how I frame the experience.
I could have been battling, wrestling, struggling, frustrated with some of the working moments.
Or, in those same moments, I could have been dancing, exploring, emerging, playing.
Most of the time, I took Option B, and it seemed to help.
Let me know—what’s something you’ve recently reframed in a way that’s helped?
OK Bo?tjan Dolin?ek
Chair CEO Advisory Board | Executive Coach | Fractional CEO Consultant/Contractor
3 周Hi Michael, how are you? I love this reframe and will use it at my next TEC meeting as an inclusion exercise! We see things with so many different lenses that impact our mindset and being able to see the value in shifting is so powerful and gives you the ability be in control of your own resilience. Love it! Thanks for sharing!when are you coming for a visit to Calgary?!!
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3 周I enjoyed this piece of art! I saw it as two people holding one another up, as a reminder that we are never alone. I need to remember that more often in my life, that we are never alone. As I see that piece with that statement- I can than see it as dancing with grace, trust and stability.
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1 个月I love using objects in my coaching work, it's such a great way to engage people; to take them out of their heads and work with potentially difficult topics. Interestingly, the first thought that came to mind for me was not dancing or wrestling but 'embracing' and then then 'compassion'. The figure on the right with their head slightly bent is about to be embraced by the future on the left who's pulling them into a hug. Having lost my dad recently perhaps that's why I'm seeing one individual approaching another in love, support and compassion.