How you can align your personal and professional values for leadership success
Kathy Archer
??Helping women lead their nonprofit with confidence --> So they can enjoy impactful leadership in the #nonprofit world ?? ICF Leadership Development Coach ??Podcaster ?? Author
Do you want to build a team that trusts each other? I bet you do. We all know that makes things way easier and more enjoyable at work! To do that, you need to focus on trust-building!
Do your top values get in the way of your ability to lead effectively?
???? Trust-building requires regular SELF-REFLECTION
While they had been able to trust me in the past, the arrival of a large new contract changed that. Previously, I'd managed everything on my plate and did it with a level of confidence. But increased responsibility, travel, staffing, scope and budget all left me scrambling to hold things together.?
When you lead with integrity, I remind you that:
The further you feel from your values, ethics, and morals could be a big warning sign that others will begin to lose their trust in you.?
?The team lost trust in me when I wasn't IN TUNE with myself!
When my team started losing trust in me, I didn't understand what was causing the quickly dwindling trust. It wasn't until my coach asked me to identify my values I started to put the puzzle pieces together.
When we say something and do something else, people step back and question our actions and motives. When we advocate wholeheartedly for one thing but then turn around and do something completely different, it sends a confusing message. Or perhaps it sends a message that is loud and clear: Don't trust her!
Things changed when I began to DIG DEEPER into my values
Over the years, I have gone back to my values regularly. I identified where they show up and how they show up, and I work to use them to make decisions, guide my behaviour and as measurements to see if I am on track.?Let me give you an example.
?? I used to think that FAMILY was my top value.
The problem was that having "family" as my guiding Northstar often got in the way of work. Because of that, I made decisions that did not align with my belief that my family was #1.
As a result, I constantly felt the inner turmoil of being off track. What's more is that others could clearly see both that I was not in integrity and that I felt crappy as a result, regardless of what I said.
Can you feel the disconnect?
?? At the same time, I valued good QUALITY WORK
I was an overachiever with high expectations for myself and others. This value often got blurred with perfectionism. Because I wasn't doing the self-reflective work to see where good turned to perfectionism,
?? Finally, I valued WELLNESS
I had done work to become physically and mentally healthier. I tried to ensure I worked out and ate healthily.
To do so would mean giving up other things, things that were valuable to me.?
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I had TOO MANY top values!
In addition to my family, good quality work and wellness also valued lifelong learning, spirituality, honesty and nature. How on earth could I put all of those at the top, lead well and enjoy life? It certainly wasn't working for me!
What's more, they often clashed. What could I do when two equally important values were in conflict with each other? ??
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Do you know and UNDERSTAND your top values?
How about you? What are your top values?
If not, that may be where you feel much of your inner turmoil.
What's changed for many of my clients and me is getting a clearer picture of our values. Values are not just words; as I say, it's verifying what that value means, how it shows up and how to use it to guide your life.
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I VERIFIED my values!?
While working through my own course, Values Verification , I realized that my top value is excellence.
EXCELLENCE encompasses being a good
EXCELLENCE also means
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That means I can't be perfect at any one of those things, and I need to continually come back to all of them during self-reflection to make sure I am on track.
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CLARITY of values helped me make this hard decision
I had a message from one of my adult kids the other day. They asked if they could have an hour of my time during my workday to talk about something very important to them. After considering things for a minute, my answer was:
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In the above example, I prioritized excellent work, but wellness and being an excellent mom took a close second.?
However, when my daughter called me when she went into labour a couple of years ago, I was in the middle of a coaching call. The coaching call ended early, and I put excellent mamma at the top of the list quickly.?
Those decisions were "easier" because of the work I've done understanding my values.
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Verifying values has helped many of MY CLIENTS
An example from a client is that they realized their top value is "simplicity."
Another client found "change" at the top of things she valued. After being in a job for a long time, she felt stuck.
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TRUST and INTEGRITY leadership emerge with clear values?
The goal of leading with trust and integrity is to align your values, ethics, morals and how you speak about those with your actions and behaviours. To do that effectively, you need to clearly understand your values.
When I turned things around, I realized three things:
I needed to get reacquainted with my values, what they meant to me, and how to use them to make decisions, drive my behaviour and leave my team. That's why I created the Values Verification course.
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?ARE YOU READY to get clear on your values?
Values are our internal compass, helping us lead and live with integrity. You can learn to use your values to guide you when you complete the self-reflective exercises in the Values Verification course.
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Values Verification Course: Feedback from students
Upon completion of the Values Verification course , this is what some of the students had to say about what they learned about their values and how they see them differently:
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Identifying and verifying your values is a FOUNDATIONAL building block for living and leading with happiness and success.
Come back to your values regularly to confirm and update them. Your life will change, and so may your values. How you define and express your values will evolve.
Beyond that, each time you return to your values, you will deepen your understanding of them as you see how they play out in leadership, productivity, emotional intelligence and wellness. That will provide additional clarity for you when making decisions and taking action.
Let me know how it goes!!
"Integrity is choosing courage over comfort; it's choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our VALUES rather than simply professing them."?Brene Brown
Make sure you understand your values so that you can practice them!!
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