How would you treat difficult people?

For many years I dealt with people very close to my life who were not always honest or working in my best interest. Intuitively I never liked them and decided to forgive and do good for them, however, their intentions and negativity became obvious, and as the years passed they proved that my intuition was right. What to do with them?

Let me start by saying that we are all here to learn something. We are not born perfect communicators, perfect leaders, and unshakeable parents. We are in a process of continuous improvement and change, that we either approach proactively to improve ourselves and deep tendencies or we are more innocent and let things come our way, both of which are fine as we have not total control over all of our experiences.

When you are in the presence of people whom you notice do not want the best for you, the best way to act is to follow your intuition and realize that these people have also problems, traumas, and insatisfactions, that they do not dare to treat themselves.

You must understand that in this situation, you are not a messenger, a psychologist, or Mother Theresa to heal their personal issues. The more people see a problem in you, without you being the cause of their problem, is a result of their own perception, and sometimes is unavoidable that you will have enemies in this life. A secret tool? Wish these people happiness far away from you.

Yes and sometimes is difficult because they have done some damage to you, but forgiving and becoming compassionate to these people, and not being caught up by their difficult emotions and intentions can be an art in itself. Yet we must understand that some people have a lot of lessons to learn, and we are just acting like the mirror or reflection that shows the assignment they have to do.

"A pure heart will always make you rise among the shadows". Keep your heart pure.

Another observation is that people who are difficult to others, are normally having difficulties with accepting themselves and their reality, and therefore must stay light in these cases and never take a grudge against them. They are actually heavy and not happy, and therefore it is best to let these patients go, rather than equalize yourself with them. Sometimes they want to feel reasure, they want to feel considered and taken seriously, and they don't notice that they are pretty immature in their emotions. My advice for you here is to literally: Let them go in your mind, and with all of their problems.

People with dissatisfaction have personal problems that are usually unresolved, and these include problems in managing relationships. They are quite unskilled to recognize that the problem lies in themselves and the way they view the world and manage relationships.

You can forgive them, but always trust your intuition and do not give too much space to these robbers of your mental peace. You deserve the very best, and these include profound, love, and expanding relationships around you, and that is also a sign of prosperity and will attract more good and happiness into your life. Therefore, trust your intuition and stay strong. Your mission in this life is to be happy and joyful, not to fight and change those people who have not understood what it is to be happy. It is not your task to show them, that is a task they must learn on their own.

Wishing you a wonderful week ahead, full of love and happiness.

By Roselyn Zeinstra, Certified Bucket List Coach. Website: www.thejoycoach.nl