How What You Wear Can Change Your Life!

Let me share with you a real life Cinderella story!

A few years ago in the summer, I was at the home of a new client editing her wardrobe. This was the first of many sessions. She was in the finance industry and mentioned she had an important industry dinner that evening – and pulled out an outfit she was thinking of wearing which was a pair of lovely tailored shorts and a flowing blouse. Having just spent the last couple of hours throwing out ? of her wardrobe and listening intently to her personal journey in life which included her past career as a singer, her string of disastrous relationships, a single mother of 3, and building a successful finance advising business, the outfit she picked just didn’t resonate with 1) the occasion 2) her creative soul that she had buried for years. Her reason for enlisting my services was that she was at a turning point in her life where she was more than ready to uplevel her life but didn’t know how.??After spending hours every day coaching her clients on the importance of investing and especially investing in themselves, she decided to walk her talk and invest in her own personal growth, and that included her fitness and her style. She had a conviction and determination in her eyes that it was her time to shine in all areas of her life, to stand out from the rest in her unique way, and although she was single, she made the decision that she was never going to settle for anything less than what she wanted in a relationship and in her life.?This was a woman respecting her self worth.

I said straight out NO to the outfit she was intending to wear and how that wasn’t in alignment with her new life, it was her old life (the word no is something my clients are accustomed to hearing and we chuckle each time). I looked through the small pile of ‘keep’ items in her wardrobe and picked out a fabulous black dress that slid on her petite body perfectly. Then I pulled together accessories with touches of emerald green to give it that next level and uniqueness transforming her ordinary black dress into extraordinary, drawing out her green eyes and her sassy?personality. She looked in the mirror and said ‘wow’. And I looked at her and said, if you don’t get a date tonight, I’ll be shocked!

At midnight (and I am not joking here), Cinderella text me to say ‘well Gess in terms of your prediction, not only did I get a date, but I got a kiss.’?(read on to know what happened next)

You see, this client knew there was more to her and more for the world to see and for years she had that specialness within her lay dormant. She buried her creative edge because she lost confidence in herself and did what was necessary to survive, which then led her to forgetting how to look and feel great.

As I got to know her and intiuitively felt her energy, it became clear how to help draw out her fabulousness in the way of clothing. Her confidence sky rocketed and so did her business.

When you decide on a new story in life, the power of clothes and how you wear them is a crucial part to relay this new story. You are honouring yourself by wearing?items that reflect the?real you?– not just where you are heading, but also those beautiful & mysterious parts of you that lay dormant for years - giving you a feeling of a quiet confidence, an ease that you will get there, you will achieve. You begin to change your perspective, people around you see you differently and treat you differently.??Feeling beautiful, powerful, sexy, approachable….whatever it is you want your story to be, you can do this through the incredible force of clothing which translates to your?visual voice.

With the amount of noise and clutter in this world, we are all scrambling to be heard in our own way – whether at home in our personal relationships, or/and in our working life.??I sadly read and hear more and more how people feel invisible, undermined, not heard, not acknowledged, overlooked, not important. What I can say with conviction is that if you want to be heard, you can?begin with your visual voice?– the way you dress – to send messages on who you are and how you want to be treated. There are more ways than one to express your voice, it's not just speaking. The way you dress speaks volumes without even speaking and it has nothing to do with glaring bright colours if that is not who you are. At the same time, blending in and playing it safe with the latest and greatest is also not a good start to expressing your visual voice. Many want to master the art of both – visual and speaking – and both go hand in hand.

To finish the story of my client – 12 months after the night she kissed that man, they married, and a couple of years after that, they had a child together. Her career went from strength to strength to recently wining one of the most prestigious awards in finance. And to this day, she still walks her talk with her style always ensuring it’s her story she is expressing, no-one elses.?

Now let me be clear, the outfit was not the ‘only’ reason they met because personality, timing and energy plays a big part in connection. But it was that very outfit that had her feeling into her power and owning it that had her future husband from the other side of the room take notice as she walked in and said along the lines ‘gee who is that’, and made his way over to her to chat to her. The End.

Conclusion: Clothes may not have that big a change or impact in your life as the story of my client – nor is it life saving! But the right pieces on you, can most definitely change the way you feel and impact your life in some way. I’m delighted to have many similar client success stories on how their style story has impacted their lives. Those rewarding feelings stay in my heart.?

About Me:?I'm a personal stylist based in Sydney, travel worldwide for my clients.?I help women (and men) - mainly executives, professionals, business leaders, business owners, change makers, politicians, to fearlessly?express their 'visual' voice?through their style. I have an innate intuition that allows me to see what you don't about yourself. You will see when we work together, it's more about discovering YOU and less about the clothes. If you want to harness your creative flair and to stand out from the rest in your own unique way, let's chat about making some 'silent' noise with your style. I have in person and virtual style sessions available.?

You can read more about me?here?and follow me on?IG?@stylebygessica?where you will be inspired by my style curations to commence shifting your style boundaries and shake things up.?

Until next time,

With Style & Love

Gessica