How to talk to anyone

How to Talk Anyone

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Why is it so hard to talk to people? We are a species that loves company, comradery, sharing, and being with others. BUT sometimes? We can find it difficult to talk to others. The few times that we gather people seem to be more interested in their phones rather than chatting with others. It’s like the phone is a new excuse not to get to know others. A reason not to get personal.

The problem with that is that we are MEANT to be personal. We are emotional beings. Complicated, true. BUT we are NOT machines. We are not objects. Somewhere? We have lost sight of that.

Oddly enough, we’re communicating all the time. But its not personal. It's not emotional. Its script. It lacks human qualities. ?We live in the era of direct messages, tweets, emails, and texts, it’s becoming harder and harder to just talk to each other. The sad thing is, a conversation is an art that’s needed more than ever.

To truly get ahead in business or your personal life, at some point, you need to know how to talk to other people using something more than text on a screen. Adding "humanness" to the conversation is needed. Especially now as we are so raw from the non-emotional world. If making a conversation with someone is hard for you, I hope this helps. We truly need to get back to a world that we see, feel, hear, and embrace each other.

Social media? Isnt the answer.

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Stay curious: Thought-provoking questions add flavor to any conversation.

Rather than asking questions that can be answered with a ‘yes’ or ‘no,’ try asking questions requiring more complicated answers. Look for ways to engage in emotional conversations, passionate tones, and watch how both of you begin to connect.

?For example, if you’re in a networking situation, learn something about the people you’re going to meet. Is it a business group or a writing group? What kinds of questions would you like someone to ask about you? Having the ability and curiosity to ask specifically about a new project they’re developing leads to better and more interesting answers than a question along the lines of, “What’s new in your company” which is too broad and impersonal to answer well.

There is more to Me than the weather.

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The tendency of falling back on the weather as a topic of conversation is both tedious and a death knell to the interaction. Turn weather talks back around by asking a related question but also redirect the conversation at the same time, such as, “You’re right, it’s been pretty hot out. It makes me think of heading somewhere cooler. Tell me, where did you go on the best vacation you’ve ever had?”

The key here is to learn about the other person. We have truly lost touch with that art form.

The Power of “Adding On”

This is a simple technique where you take what someone else has said and add something to it, adding a question at the end. This helps keep things rolling even if someone else has stopped the conversation cold with a yes/no question or something about the weather.

For example, if you’re asked if you saw the game last night, you might say, “Yes, that play at the end was really something.?It reminded me of a time when I went to see them play in person. Tell me, what’s the best game you ever saw?” This does two major things. One? It shows that you have a personal interest in this person. Two? It keeps the conversation going.

?Pay Attention!! BE PRESENT!

If you are present and paying attention you will be able to navigate any situation. You can become the person who notices when the situation is going south. Learn to have the ability to adjust your sails and ask impromptu questions so that the situation doesn’t become uncomfortable. For a quick fix, pay a compliment. It puts the focus on someone else entirely and provides a handy distraction.

?Becoming a great conversationalist will become more natural with practice. Remember, the important thing is to relax, and be your friendly, Authentic, & personable self. By paying attention to the discussion and taking some care in choosing your words, you’ll find yourself having a great conversation in no time.

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