How To Take A Leap Of Faith

The difference between a good decision and a remarkable one - is where you make your decisions from. 

When it comes to elite performance it’s really what goes on between your ears i.e. your mindset and your perspective that makes the greatest difference.

It's the subconscious conversations we have with ourselves that can make or break a deal and an opportunity of a lifetime - unless we learn how to have true sense of self and a blend of heart and head in your decision making.

• Where do you make your decisions from - Fear or Curiosity? 
• Are you addicted to the story or able to discern the difference and go towards grounded decision making instead?

The easiest way to figure that out is to think about something that you’ve been stuck in for a while that you reflect on what dialogue you have going on that is preventing you from taking a leap of faith:

“I’m just constantly going round and round in circles. There’s no way out. This is just the situation I’m in and it’s never going to change. I can’t move forward or backwards".

Either way, whatever it is on this decision, you’re in a state of complete inertia and it absolutely frustrates you beyond belief to the fact where you becoming unproductive.

You feel stuck…

There’s no forward movement. You’re constantly obsessing about it. It’s really becoming your kryptonite for energy. It's like a mental prison - sapping your energy and causing more confusion and delays.

Sometimes no move is required - just acceptance.

That acceptance in itself is taking an action - it moves you out of chaos and into a calmer space as you accept something as it is. Easier to say than actually do as most leaders by default like to control situations.

1. From what filter are you listening, from what place are you taking action and if you're not taking any action - what is keeping you stuck?
2. Are you really stuck or do you just like the story and the safety of the known landscape? 

Staying Stuck and Repeating Patterns is Mortgaging Your Mental Energy:

When we stay in our heads in this "circles capacity" all the time, we’re not utilising our energy levels to the best of our abilities.

When we sit in a mental prison or game of ping pong from one option to the next - we are not being productive with our thoughts.

We loose the connection between knowing knowledge and experience and the knowing that comes from within.

So let me draw you a little diagram (excuse my stick figures) – but it makes it very easy to think about with any given situation. 

THE LEAP MATRIX?

What prevents people from going and doing those things that you might find inspirational that others do, or leaders that just keep pushing the envelope and go, how do they do that?

You know, you look at all these people and you think, what have they got that I haven’t?

It’s a mindset.

Most people get stuck, they say stuck between these two walls that are your constant stories, the things that are really comfortable, the things that define you.

Those stories are really easy to sit in, they give validation and whether it’s kind of a relationship or if it’s a certain business environment or blah, blah, blah, the stories go on.

But either way – your reality as you think of it, is really not your reality.

You get to get un-stuck at any given point. It’s a choice not by chance. 

The uncomfortable truth is we often like to hide behind the “situations” we are in or past experiences – and loose faith in our own sense of navigation. Fear, judgement, shame and guilt creep in and paralyse us from moving forward.

The flip side is when you recognise the little voice keeping you stuck in a story – you can adopt the facts and stats strategy and start taking action rather than wasting your energy on what’s wrong.

There is ALWAYS a solution, option and another way of looking at things.

So here you go: 

Step One: Acknowledge the walls you’re leaning on:

1. What expectations and ideals am I absolutely fused with that I won’t let go of?
2. Where is the fear that I would prefer to stay in discomfort rather than go to something that could be absolutely bloody amazing, you know?

I call it the 90 10 rule. 90% is, Oh my God, this is so hard. 10% feels really cool to try something and they go right back into the story and revert back to this is too hard.

That’s usually based on a fear or shame, blame or guilt. Right?

This is a horrible place and the exhausting element of being “stuck”. The perceived dichotomy and mental prison I mentioned above.  

Most people stay in uncomfortable situations that are known, which makes them comfortable. Even if it’s not a situation you like many justify this with the old expression. Better the devil we know, right”?

No!! That is dangerous internal dialogue.

This handbrake conversation with yourself is what keeps you in the cycle of being stuck and justifying that story.

a) you’re too afraid to take a leap of faith and back yourself

b) or you don’t feel you have enough ‘evidence’ from the universe that if you go out on a limb you will be supported.

Time to change that perspective.

Step Two: What we think about expands.

So lets say you are contemplating letting go of that story (those walls I describe in stuck-ville) and want to let go and take some movement. 

2 different things are going to happen - >

1. If you were to take your hands off these walls and your feet off these walls, and you would just to let go, do you feel that you would fall or would you fly?
2. And really you’re assessing is it a risk to let go or is it an opportunity?

And that’s what you’ve got to figure out.

Are you going to fall and you’re afraid and you’re stuck in the black and all the things that could go wrong would - or you’re going to take it as an opportunity because you trust the process.

So how do you learn to back yourself? Step three......

Step Three: Engage, engage in self trust and knowing a deep sense of knowing.

Not the ego dialogue that happens in your mind, but engage in your deep sense of trust. 

It’s the 2 second conversation that says – I don’t even know how, but this feels right. So I’m going to give it a go.

The universe will support you. Just take one step.

If you don’t leap, you won’t fly.

Step Four: The next part of the Leap Matrix? is Action.

You have to put a foot out over the cliff. You can’t just sit there and stare at it.

You have to go and take a leap of faith. Just do it. One step. Take it.

Step Five and it’s the last letter in LEAP – Purpose.

Let your purpose be your anchor. 

When you have a sense of purpose you never have to worry because you’re connected and grounded in all that you do. That next level amplification is letting go and trusting yourself that you’re fully supported.

The people I work with are pioneers and game changers – they’re highly intelligent, extremely visionary, and they’re tenacious. But like anyone – they like to have a little bit of control over everything. Letting go of that control and evolving into a new level of decision making is the key that unlocks enormous potential. It also frees up an incredible amount of stuck energy.…..

Ask yourself in all of this –

Where do you sit if you were to take your hands off the walls of comfort, the stories that you tell yourself and that sense of purpose took over the sense of faith, the sense of being in the driver’s seat, of just backing yourself.

• Do you think you would fall or your fly?
• Is it a risk or is it an opportunity?
• We must have the courage to choose curiosity over fear and we don’t have to know every single step.

So if there’s something in your gut that says “gosh I really need to try/change this” – maybe take the leap and back yourself. 

The situation you’re in, the relationship, the job, the way your team are managing up to you – it just doesn’t feel right.

Do something about it. There is nothing worse than saying stuck. You’re the only one keeping you there.

It takes courage and honesty to hold a mirror up and ask “why do I like to cling to this scenario, story, situation and discomfort an easy way out – what am I afraid of doing, revealing or putting myself out on a limb for”? 

So please do not say stuck in a story, but take a leap, let go engage in a deep sense of knowing, take action and be on purpose.

Not all decisions are finite, but we do need to be able to take one step in the right direction. Even if it means on reflection letting go means complete acceptance that a certain landscape will remain. It's not what issues we face - it's how we handle them that matters.

Don’t just stand there and look at what everyone else is doing. You may just be the pioneer for others to follow.

My challenge to you is always replace fear with curiosity. Great leaders keep learning and evolving - not just their IQ but their EQ (the emotional quota and connection to self). It is just as important as your experience to date in life. In fact it's the one area that can align you with greater wisdom than ever before.

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You absolutely have the ability to design the next level of what your life looks like, whether it’s work or home.

You got this, you’re in the driver’s seat.

Yours in Mojo Always

Nikki

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