How to Take Better Control of Your Life
Jill Cruz, MS, CNS
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I was a very free-spirited child.
I was very outgoing, gregarious, and energetic. Some probably would say loud. ??
When I look back, I think I recognized that I had a certain power.
But as the years passed in elementary school, and then in middle school, I started to internalize a destructive and dominant message in our society.
That message is that my power as a young woman was dependent upon how I looked.
Because I always had such a strong personality, I really tried hard to reject this notion, but I wasn't very successful at it.
And over time, I guess you could say I got beaten down and I started to realize I had to conform.
If I wanted to be liked I had to act a certain way.
I also had to dress and look a certain way, and frankly, I was never very good at that.
As I got older there were a series of events that made me feel empowered such as traveling to Japan on my own, learning to speak Japanese fluently, marrying a wonderful man, and giving birth to 2 children naturally.
But at the same time, my sense of power and control over my life was dampened, more and more and more as I went through life.
Generally speaking, I felt like I didn't have power over my life.
And I don't think that I'm unusual.
I think that most of us walk around feeling like we don't have a lot of control over our lives.
It is true that there are many things that are not easily within our domain of control, such as the past, what other people think of us, the future, the economy, etc.
There are forces that seemingly control our lives. And that is a very valid observation that one could make in this world.
And I don't really want to discredit that.
But what I do want is to focus on what is within your realm of control.
If you solely focus on all the things that you can't control, it's easy to lose sight of the fact that there are many things within your realm of control.
I have learned that it is incredibly empowering to recognize what is within your realm of control and to actively be conscious of those things.
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Our thoughts and our actions are within our realm of control.
We can't always control outcomes.
Like I can't necessarily control what my weight is, but I can control how much I eat.
I can't necessarily control how much money I make in a year, but I can control the way that I work and the way that I run my business.
But even more important is that I can control my thoughts, my attitude, and my perspective about all of this.
One example is people who are very successful financially and yet they're still very unhappy.
They are not really exerting proper control over their thoughts, their actions, and maybe their beliefs.
If you would like to exert more control over your life, the place to start is with observation and awareness.
The level of control over your thoughts and your actions is actually very, very high.
But you're not going to be able to even begin to tap into that power if you are walking around unaware.
So what I would encourage you to do after reading this article is to become mindful and aware of your thoughts and your actions.
And there are great ways to do this.
The first step in controlling your life is to become aware of your own thoughts and your actions, your patterns of behavior, and ultimately your beliefs.
As you become more and more aware of those, you can start to take steps to exert control over your thoughts and your actions.
And that's a whole process that we do with our clients.
But none of it can be done without observation, awareness, and reflection.
My next article will give you tools for the next step in being in control of your life and living the life you desire.
If you are interested in learning more about how to take control of your life, book a call with me here.
Movement & Mindset Coach for women who run and want to be active into our 40s and beyond...????♀?Physio | ????♀?Marathoner | ????♀?Yoga/Mindfulness Guide | unpaid UBER aka ??mom of 3 ??
10 个月I love this...I feel like especially after my late 30s, I regained my power. There are absolutely things that we have control over, and when we practice Mindfulness (Mindful Movement is my favourite way to do this), then we can make really good choices that align with what we actually want and need. I have 3 kids and two are girls, turning 12 and 10 this year. I'm so hopeful that this generation is different because of our parenting style and changes in "societal norms". I know we still have work to do as a society, but I can see it already, the difference. And it's pretty cool. I'm sure somewhere along the way, there will be issues to address but right now they're all into playing sports alongside the boys, and not having a care in the world that they're so stinky after soccer haha!
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1 年"The level of control over your thoughts and your actions is actually very, very high." It is very encouraging to remember this! Thank you Jill.
Your story is inspiring! Thanks for sharing and empowering others.??
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1 年I find it interesting that there is still a pervasive 'lone wolf' syndrome hanging around. I'm not sure what your experience is, Jill Cruz, MS, CNS, but what it tells me is that there is a need to support those who are working through this. Doing the work to believe in themselves, know they matter, and get clear on what matters to them is powerful.
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1 年Appreciate your vulnerability in sharing this story Jill Cruz, MS, CNS. So glad you found your power. It is so important.