How to Successfully Break Through Your Own Glass Ceiling

No matter how many "Glass ceilings" we accuse others of putting above us, there will never be one that is tougher to break through than the one we build above ourselves!  Everybody has heard the saying, "You are your own worst critic, you are your own worst enemy..."  Well, no duh!  All too often we have built ceilings over ourselves that we repeatedly thump our head against.  Most people will start laying brick on top the glass ceiling before they will actually take the time and actions to bust through the glass one...glass is breakable, period!   

The glass ceiling is just another way of saying you see what you want but a barrier has been put there to block you from ever getting it.  The way I see it is if there is a ceiling then there is a roof.  If there is a roof then there is access to said roof and it doesn't have to be through the ceiling!  I personally believe that we are the only ones that can place a glass ceiling above ourselves.  When somebody else attempts to, they are simply giving you options.  You can stay at a certain level, which is the highest level you will achieve at this place of employment, or, you can figure out your other options and reach the level you desire.  The glass ceiling certainly does not solely stay within the walls of a work environment.  People place glass ceilings over themselves constantly on a personal level.  They cap a level on intimate relations, friendships, family relations...If there is a chance they could get hurt, they will find a reason to build a glass ceiling...just so they can blame something other than fear!

There is always a barrier before you reach the next level in life...that is why it is the next level and not the same level.  There are certain beliefs and risks that you are going to have to be willing to change and take, in order to bust through the ceiling of beliefs and fears that you have built over the years!  As a Coach, I have/had many clients that struggle with the ramming your head into the same ceiling syndrome.  It always comes down to a lack of actions and fear of failure.  Of course there are many sub-reasons that lay within both of these subjects but hands down, these are the two things that people allow themselves to get stuck in!

The personal glass ceiling is not partial to gender, race, sexual preference, religion...It is available and used by all!  Everybody has one, most have multiple...but breaking them and moving upward is how we grow as individuals and learn better the paths we are traveling on and which ones to get off at the next exit!  Personally, I love to break things!  What better to break than the barriers that I have allowed to form over my happiness, my success, and my journey!

If you are tired of living in the ram your head into the same ceiling syndrome, here are a few things you can do to help you bust through that silly ceiling!

How to Successfully Break Through Your Own Glass Ceiling

In order to break through your ceiling, you must first identify the fears that built it in the first place.  Many of my clients have had fears of not being good enough in their career and/or personal lives.  They fear that they will disappoint others.  They fear heartache.  They fear success (yes, success is very scary to many people).  They fear risking their comfortable bubble.  Whatever the fear is, it is like quicksand for the forward motion.  The way I coach is simply by being me, which means being blunt and a get er' done attitude.  The reason something is personally fearful to you is because it is not comfortable.  Comfortable is a funny word, way over used, and is often the ceiling itself!  Fear is the feeling we experience when we are pushing on the walls of our comfort level.  If you simply change the word from fear to excitement you are left with a whole new feeling.  Example:  Because right now I am financially secure, I fear leaving my current job and starting in the field that I am passionate about.  (When you change fear to excitement the whole dynamic changes).  Even though I am financially secure in my current job, I am excited to begin a new career in the field that I am passionate about.  Remember, if it doesn't scare the crap out of you a little, the risk is not big enough to take you even close to the next level.  

Fear is the main reason that people put a glass ceiling over themselves when it comes to relationships.  Hell yea it is scary to put your heart out there for somebody to stomp on, but again, it is the heartbreaks that always lead us to the next level on the relationship journey.  The fear of being hurt takes many people out of the game, period.  Bottom line is you will never score if you refuse to step onto the field!  Three ways to overcome your fears that are holding you back:

1. Identify the what and whys of this fear - What is the fear and why is it a fear to you?

2. Ask yourself these questions: Does this fear save you from death?  Does this fear accelerate me or hold me back?  What would be the worst result I could get if I bust past this fear?

3. Remind yourself that this life is for living, not just breathing!  

The second reason people continually ram their heads into their self-made glass ceiling is due to the lack of an action plan!  I have had clients that couldn't understand why the results they were getting are the same results they were getting prior to my coaching.  I ask, "Have you been implementing the action plans I gave you last session?"  They say, "Well, I didn't really have time...I had meetings...I had family issues..."  I then ask, "So, you thought by me simply giving you the actions to take that the results would change...with no effort on your part?"  Silence!  Miraculously when they implemented my self-proclaimed genius suggestions...their results began to change in their favor.  It is amazing what will happen when you put forth the effort and become a key player in your own life!  The simple fact is that if you take the same actions, you will get the same results.  If those results are not the desired results...it is time to change your actions.  Scary stuff, I know!  Changing your actions is a continuous plan.  Your life should be constantly evolving, therefore, your actions should be constantly changing.  The only way you will break through your glass ceiling is to approach it differently than you have approached it before.  There is no magic wand for this one!  There is one way to get different results and that is to take different actions...it is as simple and as hard as that!

In order for you to break through the self-inflicted glass ceiling, you will have to face your fears, conquer your fears that are blocking you from achieving what you want to accomplish, evaluate the actions you have taken which have delivered the results that no longer work for you, and then get a new action plan that will bring new results!  This isn't a fluffy unicorn journey, this is what separates the ones that break through the ceiling and the ones that walk around with a large red knot on their head from repeatedly ramming their heads against the glass!   I can tell you two things about this journey: 1. It doesn't always feel good.  2. It is always worth it!

This is your life, your journey, your dreams, and your results.  Stop allowing yourself to hide behind a glass ceiling, get the jack hammer out and break that bad mo wide open!  You are absolutely worthy of living a phenomenal life!  Get out and show the world how absolutely awesome you are! #professionalwomen #bestadvice #success

Have you broken through your glass ceiling?  Please share in the comment section!

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